Widower father and his new partner - he has bought new house and she is moving in

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My mum died 5 years ago and my father has recently sold their property (our family home) to move closer to remaining family. He has bought a new house in his name only but his new girlfriend will be moving in with him imminently as she would no longer have to work to pay rent and so could retire thanks to dad.

I have a lot of feelings about this but I’m not looking to get into his vulnerabilities or potential romance fraud as I have already spoken to him about this.

but should she outlive him, would she be able to stay in the house and claim it as her own, would she be entitled to any of this inheritance/property? Inheritance that my mother and father built together and had always planned to leave to me and my sister? There was never any plan to give any share to new partners/girlfrieds as I don’t think that had even been considered given that they were married for over 50 years.

he has only just moved in and she has not yet officially moved in so I’m looking for any legal or property or inheritance advice before anything progresses.

thanks

How bloody rude and ageist!!

And Grabby.

Wow.

Funnily enough if dad married his now partner and then dad needed care, this would mean he wouldn’t have to sell his house to pay for care home fees as it would be their marital home and disregarded from any financial assessment.

it sounds like your mum passed everything to your dad instead of giving him a “lifetime interest only” in her half of the “family home” so that it could pass to her children, so the money is now all his and he has used it to buy a house.

the only thing you can do is talk to dad about what you said your mum’s wishes were and ask him to protect that legally. Obviously he doesn’t have to.

maybe your dad likes his new partner not working? My dad would. He wants to be with her..it’s not always a ruse.

That's fundamental wrong. There are allowed reasons etc.
I take it you know the inheritance law for every European country? (though i know you will say yes be you are obviously trolling)

@Arthurprachette so if DF and his new partner didn't marry, the home would be seen as his asset and therefore available to be used to pay for his care?

That could place new partner in a very vulnerable position.

You never know, he might change his will for her to be the only beneficiary following his death, then “your inheritance” won’t be an issue, because you won’t have any

Yes that’s right in England as I understand it if the house is not in joint names

yes unmarried partner living in another’s home without their name on tenancy or land registry title are vulnerable

I was happy my dad found someone. I felt the burden of ensuring he was ok completely lifted.
Speak to him about wills

This is why all married couples with with children , in the UK , should own houses as tenants in common in equal 50/50 shares (for example ). So that a wife or husband can leave their share to children , with a lifetime interest for the remaining living spouse to stay in the home until care home or death. Then children cannot be disinherited , when inevitably (usually the husband if , still alive- let’s be honest) moves on / lives with someone who wasn’t their original wife or mother of their children. Don’t know why people don’t know / do anything about this … only have to see what Linda Bellingham’s husband did to her sons to make you stop and think. She thought her husband would look after her sons with HER wealth upon her death … he did not And they were left with nothing. Leave YOUR Share of your assets to your children, not your spouse people (if you do indeed want your children to benefit from something you built over your life time).

I think that was a wind up post. Haven’t seen women called ‘pieces’ since the 1950s.

Jesus wept. You can't see that a man married for 50 years might want companionship, love, someone to take care of and to take care of him?

Why exactly are you in your relationship and why would your needs be so different because you got old?

It's his money to spend doing what makes him happy and comfortable.

I read that she makes him happy- surely that’s all that matters?

It's somewhat amusing how everyone turns around on the "it's my inheritance, how do I prevent this woman getting her hands on it" when the standard advice on so many threads is advising women how to get their hands on a man's money. I wonder what the advice would be if the woman posted for advice on her security in this position - because most people would advise her to marry him!

But thats not who is posting
OP is posting for advice so it would be a little odd to answer her post with advice for someone else entirely wouldn't it?

And if she then left all yoyr dads assets to her children?

It's down to him to leave a will that prevents that, if it's not what he wants.

It undoubtedly increases the level of complication when parents who have accumulated wealth during a long marriage remarry, but it's still their money to spend or pass on as they see fit.

None of it is yours, it’s his and he can do with HIS money whatever he wants

Well this is something new you are adding . What has been happening ?