I left my daughter’s father last year in April. After our daughter was born I had to go back to work 3 weeks after giving birth as we ran a business together and it was only me that had the skills to run it. He became the stay at home dad and I began to notice changes after A year of this. Since then I left him after 15 years together as I suffered daily abuse mentally from being told I was a
rubbish parent and didn’t put my children before my friends. I was
lazy and didn’t do anything around the house, I began to write up things I did at home to prove to him I did things to be told you only do it for a couple of weeks. If we had disagreements he’d bring in the children and disrespect me on front of them, as a
result they now have no respect for me whatsoever. He said if I ever wanted to go out and have drinks he expected to have sex with me when I got home, same if I was to go to a friends wedding and stay at a hotel, eventually all the things on top of my chronic fatigue syndrome and fibromyalgia began to beat me down I eventually began to react to his verbal beatings and would either have nervous breakdowns or attempt suicide. He mentally broke me to a point of feeling I had
norhing and no one. I’ve obviously left this toxic relationship I have not had any bad set backs in this way since leaving, however I have spoken to the court and cafcass
as he has turned my children against me, they say they suffered mental abuse and trauma because of it and now want to stand in court and crucify me. I originally went to the courts because he just would not co parent properly. I wasn’t aware of school sickness, medical appointments, club shows and now feels I’ve been stripped of rights as a mother because he thinks he still has control. He smokes weed around the youngest who is 15 years old and leaves big bags of weed on the kitchen table, I managed to get a video and photo evidence of this last time I had to go round the house. My kids now hate me and I just don’t know what to do anymore. The court have said as a safeguarding issue they will be taking it further. He has said because of how my mental health used to be im the one they’ll be safeguarding against and I’ll have to have supervised visits. I just don’t know what to do and really need some advice of who
to talk to other than a solicitor. My drs have already said I am of no danger to my children, I was a danger to myself and this is on record. Can he really use my past mental health against me even thought it was his gaslighting and mental abuse that caused me to react the way I did?