Hi I need some help iv been through family court since early 2023 for cao however I made a report to the police in April 2024 for r the police told me don't disclose this information to anyone until an arrest is in place but because there is a cao contact they can't stop that and so I had to continue it I had my first meeting with cafcass in June 2024 but doing as I was advised I didn't disclose this to him my ex was supposed to be arrested in October and at this point we had a social worker I told her face to face of the investigation and that he was going to be arrested on the set date i notified the courts and my legal team that date came and it couldn't take place he was then arrested in December and released on bail his offences were r non fatal strangulation and coercive and controlling behaviour however cafcass did not mention to me their domestic abuse practice policy which states where a parent is under investigation they do not recommend any contact he hid this for some reason but the judge asked me to produce a statement stating how each 4 offences related to my son and effected my exs parenting by the time I got my court order with instructions for my statement I was left with hardly anything left to disclose and they deliberately made it impossible to do upon doing that the social worker did a s7 stating there was no risks from my ex being around my son and from what she witnessed my son was happy and attached in his dad's care and she recommended a shared care order in her report she is very much pro contact and is innocent until proven guilty as she stated he's only been arrested it doesn't mean he's done it she's stated her understanding of domestic abuse impacts on children and so my son is on a child in need plan but everyone has completely shut down the impacts of domestic abuse against me and the effects that has on my son and him witnessing the gaslighting emotional abuse psychological abuse ect and so a shared care has been ordered as a final order. And I'm in fear of living in my exs pocket unless the cps charge him I don't even feel like my sons mom anymore any advice