Can a teacher date a parent?

[Moonlightfrog]

Can a teacher or TA be dismissed for dating a parent of a student (student not in the teachers classes)?

Since you met elsewhere, not in his capacity as a teacher, it should have been broadly fine. Unless there's much more to the story which it doesn't sound like. I don't agree he crossed a line in them getting together, they met before the child started school. His mistake was just not being candid with management about his relationship status involving a parent.

There could be something in the code of conduct with his employer about relationships with parents.

Why do you want him to disclose it OP?

There could be but he hasn’t given me any information. If there is then he shouldn’t have started the relationship in the first place.

So we can been seen out together? Because I’m pretty sure he is supposed to disclose it? So my dc isn’t put in an awkward position?

How long was the relationship?

Would he have any other reason to want to hide your relationship? The teacher/parent thing is a red herring

I'm dating a teacher at my sons school. Both of his children also go there and one is even in his class (secondary age) so there's no reason it would cause problems, providing everyone is able to act like grown ups

It would seem sensible to declare it to a line manager at some point, just to be on the safe side, but I don't think there would be an issue

Is there any other reason he might not want you to be seen together married? Long term relationship? To my knowledge there is no reason a teacher and a parent can't have a relationship.

Possibly there could be another motive for him not wanting you both to be seen together

Is this secondary school or primary school?

Is the school an elite school?

I know primary schools are usually hotter on this, as well as elite schools.

But bog standard secondary schools are usually fine because you have over 100 pupils a day and it’s pretty common to have a relationship with one of them or their family members in some way.

I personally would not date a parent or would want to keep it private but it’s usually not possible.

But if you were saying before your kid even joined the school then I don’t see the issue at all.
I assume your child has said something or eventually will and so it’s impossible to keep it a secret anyway.

So you liked him enough to be in a relationship but ended it within 20 mins of starting this thread based on the replies.

You couldn't have talked to him about it like an adult? Maybe he genuinely believes he could lose his job.

What a load of rubbish.

At my dc's old primary school, there are many members of staff (both teachers and TAs) who have children attending the school. Therefore, many staff members are indeed married to parents of children in other classes.

It is a bit different if the relationship starts because the teacher/parent met through the child being at the school. But as long as there are no safeguarding concerns re the child, then it is not a sackable situation. As long as the staff member is honest with their SLT.

So your partner's reticence is misplaced. If you are important enough to have a relationship with @Moonlightfrog then you are important enough for it not to be kept a secret.

Honestly it seems like he dodged a bit of a bullet..? Strange reaction to a regular set of circumstances

Yes ..... Why do you think it's illegal? :)

Is he married OP?

I know a teacher who married a parent 😳

I'm a teacher and I date a new parent every term.

Is he married? This is the only reason I could see him not wanting to disclose the relationship.

At our local primary school a very popular male Year 6 teacher had an affair with a parent and kept his job!

Is it a private school? At private schools they can set their own rules. I worked at one where the head said it wasn’t appropriate for teachers to be on apps such a tinder because they would come across local parents.

No, we are both single.

Not sure why someone said 'he's dodge a bullet'. ..just because I don't want to have to be hidden away and I don't want to make my DC keep secrets?

Oh, come on! He's married or at least in a relationship.

Or even dipping his wick in another parent or colleague.

Err, I'm married to the parent of a child at my school 😀

Deffently isn't married.

@Moonlightfrog the reason I asked is because I recently read a newspaper report where a headmaster was struck off for an affair with a parent.

Doesn't sound like a fulfilling relationship if your basically sneaking around as if he was married.

Why?