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Husband wouldn’t move out

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T279 · 18/02/2025 18:04

My husband of 15 years is a functional alcoholic. He’s excellent at work and everyone loves him. At home, he’s useless as a husband and a dad. He works late hours, usually finishing work around 11pm but doesn’t come home until 3am, sometimes 5am. He spends the time drinking and chatting to his mates on the phone. Then he sleeps until it’s time to go to work. On his days off also he goes out and gets drunk. He’s addicted to his phone and alcohol. Doesn’t help me with anything. I work 34 hours a week and do all the housework. We have two kids, I drop them at schools and collect them too. He’s supposed to do the school runs with our youngest just one day a week but most of the time he doesn’t even do that because he’s too drunk and sleeps till late. I have to do the school run and go to work late. If it weren’t for my immediate manager being a very kind woman, I would have lost my job. Some nights he go out with his mates and doesn’t come home. I had enough of him and asked him to move out but he doesn’t want to go. We’re renting from a private landlord. I told him that I don’t want a penny from him. I can look after the kids. What should I do?

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NotbloodyGivingupYet · 18/02/2025 18:07

Is he on the tenancy agreement?

VanCleefArpels · 18/02/2025 18:09

Are you jointly on the tenancy? You can end the tenancy unilaterally if you are a joint tenant by giving notice to the landlord. Or you could ask him to leave and ask the landlord to issue a new tenancy in your name only but you are likely to get be subject to financial checks ( credit score and affordability)

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/family/if-you-were-living-together/what-happens-to-your-home-when-you-separate/

Otherwise you should get legal advice if you intend to divorce

DelphiniumBlue · 18/02/2025 18:11

I don't see why he shouldn't pay for the kids, whatever CMS suggest once you have separated.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 18/02/2025 18:13

Try telling him you are done with him so one of you is leaving and the other will stay in the house with the kids and if he's not leaving, you will. He can be the resident parent and you will have them every other weekend.
If you make him believe you mean it, he'll race you to get out the door!

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 18/02/2025 18:15

I'm sorry, OP, that sounds hard.

Since you rent rather than own, is there a reason why you can't find somewhere else to live, have your name taken off the tenancy agreement and move out with your kids?

T279 · 18/02/2025 20:23

He is on the tenancy agreement. I have to ask my landlady about changing the contract, I didn’t think about it. Thank you. I am going to speak to citizens advice . Thanks again for all your kind words

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NotbloodyGivingupYet · 18/02/2025 20:57

Good luck. You deserve better x

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