Ex not replying to solicitors letter

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Hi all,
Apologies if you’ve seen many threads from me recently regarding the situation but looking for some advice.

XH and I divorced 2 years ago. I have tried to get on as amicabally as possible for dc sake despite him being awful during the marriage .

We have always agreed we would get an amicable consent order with a clean break clause. He didn’t spend a penny on the divorce and I knew he wouldn’t pay for this consent order either. I wish I had now sorted this out at the time of divorce but my savings had almost ran out and he caused me a lot of stress with the child arrangement proceedings (wouldn’t reply to my solicitor).

I told him I would be applying for a consent order/clean break and asked that he could confirm he was happy for me to proceed before I paid the solicitor/court fees to draft it up and submit (almost £1.5k). We agreed neither of us wanted anything off each other as we have no joint assets.

To point out, he’s on a high salary while I’m on UC (young dc but looking for work). This £1.5k is a huge amount of my savings which I can’t afford to waste. Ever since he realised I’ve actually went ahead with drafting the order, he’s resorted back to his nasty old self. My solicitor has sent him an email and letter (he doesn’t want to involve a solicitor) explaining the steps (which I already explained to him before we agreed) and if he’s happy to move forward with the consent order.

He’s not replied. I know it hasn’t been long since he received it but I have this horrible gut feeling he’s just going to ignore it like he used to last time. What the hell do I do if he doesn’t respond? Would I have to go to mediation and court? I think he has a lot more money than he lets on (he’s asked numerous times to borrow money off me and goes on holiday 5-6 times a year). He’s stated twice that I must sign the consent order before he fills out the d81 form and I can’t negotiate for any of his assets once he’s disclosed it. I don’t want any of his money I just want to protect any future assets/inheritances.

Any advice greatly appreciated. I’m having some health issues at the moment and really can’t deal with this added stress.
Thanks in advance!

If refuses to respond you aren't going to get a consent order. You will have to attend an MIAM (Mediation Information & Assessment Meeting) but you won't be required to attempt mediation. You will then have to go to court. He will have to disclose all his assets and the court will decide on the split. If you are right and he is not disclosing all his assets, this could end up being a lot more expensive for him.

Thank you @prh47bridge ! Hopefully he accepts it. He loves to cause me stress so I think he will span it out as long as he can. Hopefully it doesn’t end up in court but I will prepare myself just incase. I’ll have to self represent as I’ve wiped my savings 😭.