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Family court order

10 replies

Chesky79 · 01/02/2025 08:32

Thoughts please. Some background- I had a very messy divorce from my controlling first husband he was older and pretty sure he is a narcissist. Had to get a family court order in place as he dictated to me when I would see my children and still tried to control me. 1st court order in place with a 2 week pattern that was 70/30 split in my favour this was back in 2013. He has been a a nightmare to coparent with, he basically does not co parent at all. During Covid moved to week in week off and then had the court order updated to show week on week off. Now since September last year my youngest daughter has not wanted to go to his for her own reasons and has stayed with us. She has been to visit her dad after school or meet up with him at the weekend but does not want to live with hi m any more, she is 14. Our so. Was happy to carry in going back and forwards then in October 1/2 term decided he wanted to stay at his dads ( dad has bought him a moped) he is 17. I am happy out children make up on choices on how they want to live and everything has been fine.

I have asked my ex husband that we aply to the family court tot have our curt order discharged seeing as it is not being followed. I finally received a response from my ex husband saying he does not agree to this and that he does not give permission to me to give his email or phone number to a third party to start the process of having the court order discharged. Am I being. I reasonable for wanting to get this legal document discharged as neither of us are following it since September last year.

thoughts please, thank you

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Wasywasydoodah · 01/02/2025 08:33

Just leave it. No good will come from going to court again. You both agree on the changes, so no problem

Hiccupsandteacups · 01/02/2025 08:34

Just leave it as it is. It’s working and costs less than going to court. Not many years left before both children are 18

Autumndayz77 · 01/02/2025 08:46

There will be a line in there to say you can make changes if both parties agree… are looking to discharge it so you can claim maintenance?

Chesky79 · 01/02/2025 08:49

No wish to claim maintenance,

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Porkyporkchop · 01/02/2025 08:54

Leave it. Don’t poke the bear now things are relatively settled.

prh47bridge · 01/02/2025 09:42

Agree with others. Neither of you is following the court order. Given that you don't want to claim maintenance and neither of you seems to have any desire to enforce the order, there is no point in removing it. I will, however, note that you do not need his permission to give his contact details to a solicitor if you did start any form of legal action, including getting this order discharged.

Glorybox2025 · 01/02/2025 09:45

The order no longer applies to your son anyway and why do you think you need an order to say that you both agree to change contact arrangements? An order is only for when you don't agree.

Nextdoor55 · 01/02/2025 17:19

Christ alive don't go to family court it's a nightmare, & expensive.

BodyKeepingScore · 01/02/2025 21:25

There's absolutely no need to take this back into a court arena.

I agree with your ex on this one.

Jumblebum · 01/02/2025 21:46

Why do you want to there to be na updated court order? What will it do for you?

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