Hello I’m looking for some advice because my ex is making me lose my mind. Me and my ex broke up three years ago because of dv. I moved away after a long 8 year relationship to start again fresh. In the three years I have taken him back and recently broke up this July because I lost feelings completely. We have three children 5,3 and 2. He has always been emotionally abusive to me and the children, he has them every fortnight and when they come home they are a complete state not washed or been cleaned my daughters hair won’t be taken out brushed and her hair is thining. He recently had the police at his while my children was there because his neighbour tried to climb though his window and attack him and social phoned me because the police was concerned of the state of his property. My middle child come home rope playing with his dolls screaming “I’ve got to go work” and said he get sad when dad didn’t come soft play because he’s dad left him for work. He has changed his weekends multiple time going 3-4 weeks without seeing them against court order and recently changed jobs and swapped to my weekends but I was suppose to start work and he told me I’ll have to deal with it. He leaves my children with my sister to play football. My sister lost her kids because she was violent towards her she takes random prescription drugs not her own and has hallucinations and once nearly blew her hole street up on purpose so I’d never leave them and I’ve asked him to stop and he won’t my oldest son is non verbal and came home slapping his own hand it’s left me heartbroken. He also has been been taken off speech and language, hearing and pre school development team because I couldn’t make it to the meetings because I Always had three kids and they would always rearrange because the work couldn’t be done. There dad agrees to appointment but on the day never comes it’s all the time and my children health is suffering for it. My middle child constantly asked for calls off his dad and he never answer when I ask. He wet himself for the first time when his dad was her two weeks ago and apparently does it a lot at his. since then he keeps doing it on the way to school he had an accident I asked him is there a reason he’s not making it to the toilet. He replied because I want to so I asked why do you and he said because daddy will phone and tell me off so he’s started getting attention seeking disorder and when I ask him to call or try and compromise he tells me “we’re not in a relationship anymore” “this is what you wanted to be a single mum”. Like that has anything to do with our parental responsibility. I was sexually assaulted 4 months ago and he said I deserved it. But he’s been expecting me to let him stay here on his weekends and me clean cook and do everything for him and the kids and then expected it the following weekend and this is how he always worms his way in and this time I really don’t see a relationship ever happening I just want him to be a good dad I’ve filed to return back to court because I can no longer live like this or watch my chidren be destroyed by the person who supposed to be there protector