Needing advice

[Idkmyself]

Hi everyone,

to cut a long story story, i went through DV with my ex, we have a daughter

caffcass and court are involved

now I really need so help, so he’s admitted everything he’s done, getting help on a perpetrator course, he’s with someone else now but I still love him so bad, I honestly can’t stop thinking about him or how good he was when things was good, he really loved me and my little boy(different relationship) we got engaged lived together and had a perfect family, I really want contact him to tell him how I feel but I feel vile even thinking about this because of his current partner, and how he will react all together, but I’m torturing myself, do I contact him or not, will it work or am I making a fool out of myself, I can’t stop feeling the way I do, I really do love this man, he really stole my heart, I really want the perfect family but I really don’t want jeopardise anything else either, we have got hearing 3 coming up soon and he will have parental rights, he is a good dad and I know he will always put her first, I’m so confused and angry with how I feel, I’m just looking to see if anyone has been in this situation or got any advice please

Honestly, you can love him and know he is no good at the same time. A good father does not abuse his wife, and your child deserves better. You would risk custody of your own children if you appear to be putting them at risk by pursuing a relationship with a violent man.

If you've experienced domestic violence with this man, then he isn't a good person. No man, who truly loves his partner, abuses her, regardless if that's physically or mentally. I understand you can't switch emotions off, but you are looking at him through the memories of the good times. What about the bad? Focus on your child, and arranging amicable co-parenting. I would suggest some counselling to help you deal with your feelings and emotions.