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Neighbour falsely reported me to the police

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Galaxy1989 · 22/11/2024 20:09

Hi all

So I have had issues with my neighbour for a few years.
She has made four false reports to social services four times since September 2023. We know it's her because of things that were said that made it obvious but not obvious enough that it was proof for the police if that makes sense.
We did report to the police the last three times it happened and they logged it but couldn't do anything due to proof.
Luckily social services knew it was all rubbish.

This lady has told so many lies in the past and blamed people for things. She would cause trouble with some other neighbours too but they've now moved.

Anyway a few weeks ago a police officer came round and said she had accused me of sending her threatening letters and funeral plans! I denied this completely because it's not true! But I was honest about how I felt about her because of the trouble she has caused in the past and I said to him I think she's making it up/doing it to herself to cause trouble.
I completely forgot all about it after a few days until this week when two police officers turned up to arrest me!
They didn't luckily because I had an urgent medical appointment but I had to go down to the police station the next day to have an interview under caution.
She recently got another letter and the letter basically is as if it's me that wrote it!
They're investigating but I'm honestly in shock. How can they believe this for a second??
The police officer said an email address was given for the funeral plans in her name so they're going to try and find out whose ip address links to it.
Is there not more they can do??
This is putting so much stress on my health, I'm having chest pains, panic attacks, etc.
I know I havent done anything but it's still awful to be accused and have this pressure and wonder god knows what she will do next!!

How can they attempt to arrest someone when they have zero proof? As if I would write a letter basically admitting it was me if I was writing hate mail!!!

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BeMintBee · 22/11/2024 21:14

Galaxy1989 · 22/11/2024 21:11

Thank you, I just worry that makes me look guilty

No it doesn’t it just means you want someone there to make sure you fully understand what is happening and to make sure your rights are protected.

ConstitutionHill · 22/11/2024 21:14

"the police don’t arrest without evidence
they don’t interview under caution without evidence"

Well they can and do!

Sorry this is happening OP. Personally I would consult a solicitor pronto. What an absolutely arse your neighbour is.

hazelbiscuit82 · 22/11/2024 21:15

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Galaxy1989 · 22/11/2024 21:15

Thank you. Without sounding pathetic, I feel like I've been treated really unfairly and I don't know if this is the norm of how they do things

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If you don't believe the OP and think it's all bollocks have you thought about fucking off to a different thread instead of berating the OP every two mins?

Galaxy1989 · 22/11/2024 21:18

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I'm not giving the full extent of everything that has happened between us, no. Nothing illegal has happened before but there is more to how I know her then just my neighbour. I was trying to be careful of what I say

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ToBeOrNotToBee · 22/11/2024 21:21

They will make their enquiries and if it comes out that it is her, she'll be arrested and charged for wasting police time.

Miniopolis · 22/11/2024 21:21

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Sounds like that’s for the best.

Galaxy1989 · 22/11/2024 21:21

ToBeOrNotToBee · 22/11/2024 21:21

They will make their enquiries and if it comes out that it is her, she'll be arrested and charged for wasting police time.

Thank you. I'm more worried they won't find out it's her and what else she's capable of now.

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Miniopolis · 22/11/2024 21:22

Galaxy1989 · 22/11/2024 21:18

I'm not giving the full extent of everything that has happened between us, no. Nothing illegal has happened before but there is more to how I know her then just my neighbour. I was trying to be careful of what I say

You don’t need to give more information OP, it’s probably best if you don’t give all the details here anyway, which the previous poster should actually know.

BobbyBiscuits · 22/11/2024 21:22

This happened to me before. I was accused of writing a poison pen letter to a close friend. Not only accused, but they said 'i know it was you as you're the only person that couldn't said those things' what things? I replied, agog. 'you should know' they replied. Obviously not.
Absolutely infuriating and I know who did it as well. But they never ever faced any punishment.
I'm so sorry this has happened.
The letter would have your DNA on it, surely? Of course it's got hers. You should try and seek a restraining order.

LookItsMeAgain · 22/11/2024 21:23

I think she's seen "Wicked Little Letters" and she wants to see what it's like in real life.

justanotherchangeofname · 22/11/2024 21:24

I'm an officer and I believe this could happen to someone who's innocent! Easily! She would have given a statement to say she'd received those letters and it will be taken at face value.. but with you saying you didn't send them they'll have to provide more proof to get a charge I would have thought. Leave them to get the IP address and it will show if it's her! Then she'll have some questions to answer.

Also, always have a solicitor regardless of guilt, probably even more so if you're innocent! Lots of people say they don't need one because they're innocent but then cause more problems for themselves in interview than if they had asked for a solicitor. Even as a voluntary interview, you're entitled to free legal representation- not sure on how you'd stand now though.

Galaxy1989 · 22/11/2024 21:24

BobbyBiscuits · 22/11/2024 21:22

This happened to me before. I was accused of writing a poison pen letter to a close friend. Not only accused, but they said 'i know it was you as you're the only person that couldn't said those things' what things? I replied, agog. 'you should know' they replied. Obviously not.
Absolutely infuriating and I know who did it as well. But they never ever faced any punishment.
I'm so sorry this has happened.
The letter would have your DNA on it, surely? Of course it's got hers. You should try and seek a restraining order.

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Thank you. They didn't even take my dna or anything but then maybe they would have it on the system? I was arrested for shop lifting when I was 16 and I remember them doing finger prints, etc then so I guess they would still have it all?
Sorry that happened to you too. Did they actually report it to the police and say it was you?

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Galaxy1989 · 22/11/2024 21:25

LookItsMeAgain · 22/11/2024 21:23

I think she's seen "Wicked Little Letters" and she wants to see what it's like in real life.

I'm going to Google that as I've never heard of it

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Galaxy1989 · 22/11/2024 21:27

justanotherchangeofname · 22/11/2024 21:24

I'm an officer and I believe this could happen to someone who's innocent! Easily! She would have given a statement to say she'd received those letters and it will be taken at face value.. but with you saying you didn't send them they'll have to provide more proof to get a charge I would have thought. Leave them to get the IP address and it will show if it's her! Then she'll have some questions to answer.

Also, always have a solicitor regardless of guilt, probably even more so if you're innocent! Lots of people say they don't need one because they're innocent but then cause more problems for themselves in interview than if they had asked for a solicitor. Even as a voluntary interview, you're entitled to free legal representation- not sure on how you'd stand now though.

Thank you. I really hope they would have to have actual proof and not just believe what she's saying as evidence.
Does an ip address trace back to the person's actual address?
He said they were going to try and get the ip address for the email address that was used for the funeral plans

Oh no, maybe I should have asked for a solicitor. I just thought I wouldn't need one

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Galatine · 22/11/2024 21:28

My understanding is that they don’t need proof to arrest you, just reasonable suspicion that you may have committed a crime or offence.

Galaxy1989 · 22/11/2024 21:30

Galatine · 22/11/2024 21:28

My understanding is that they don’t need proof to arrest you, just reasonable suspicion that you may have committed a crime or offence.

Thank you. I just don't see how that is fair at all. So I could accuse someone of something and they would get arrested even if they were innocent. That isn't fair. This woman knows I have bad mental health and knows the traumatic things I have been through the last few years and it's like she wants to destroy me

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Miniopolis · 22/11/2024 21:31

I would be really surprised if they would consider DNA testing for this level of investigation, it just wouldn’t be worth the money for them.

justanotherchangeofname · 22/11/2024 21:32

In honesty I'm not overly sure how much it shows, I thought it was general location but maybe there's a more in depth check 🤷🏻‍♀️ they could have seized all your devices to check for the letter if they wanted to

justanotherchangeofname · 22/11/2024 21:32

Galatine · 22/11/2024 21:28

My understanding is that they don’t need proof to arrest you, just reasonable suspicion that you may have committed a crime or offence.

This is correct

ThoseDarnCrows · 22/11/2024 21:32

Galaxy1989 · 22/11/2024 20:33

They can't have proof because I haven't done it! She's saying I have and I don't know what the other letters said, he only showed me the last letter but apparently there's thing in there that would be something I would know so that's why she's insisting it's me

These 'things' you would apparently know - are they things she has told you of herself? Things she has told you of other people? Events? Places etc. And if she has told you, who's to say that she hasn't told other people? Or are you the only person (according to her) that would know?