Cancelling a non_molestation order

[TitaniumTess]

Hi,

My ex has been problematic since separating 4 years ago. I recently applied for a non-molestation order on police advice. I've been to court twice, once with him there.

I'm worried he isn't bad enough and I'm too exhausted to do more witness statements and half a day of court, especially with the lies he comes up with.

I emailed court stating that I would cancel the non-molestation order as my ex has agreed to behave moving forward via our parenting app. School are also aware as we have family support there.

He had a solicitor. They were hassling me yesterday to sign an electronic document their end. I rejected the first one as it said things that weren't true about the hearing last week.

Does anyone have any advice please? I assume that I fill a form in my end.

Their form is stating that I won't use anything already mentioned before so it feels like they're trying to trick me somehow. Thanks in advance

So he's still abusing you and using the system to do it. Why would you cancel the non-mol order? Are you getting help from any DV charities, they will be well versed in this?

Hi, I had an IDVA until the end of last year.

They said I was in a place to be strong enough myself. X

The family court system was so useless, I felt very let down.

You are so close to getting the order so keep going in the system. If you drop it and then in 6 months he goes back to being difficult and abusive, you'll have to start all over again. Keep working through the process.

And talk to women's aid if you need advice on what legal papers you are signing.

I think you would be …. Misguided… to cancel the order.

Of course he is getting his solicitor to hassle you (solicitors don’t do things unless asked by their client! It’s your ex, not the solicitor), of course he is promising sweetness and light.

And will continue his abuse gave minute you withdraw the order.

And the police might be less sympathetic in future. When you really need them.

You have dine the hard but, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain by pushing forwards.

MN strength to you OP!

Ffs give the authorities the chance to protect you. .
Aren't you worth keeping safe op?

Their form is stating that I won't use anything already mentioned before so it feels like they're trying to trick me somehow.

Spot on. Trust you instincts OP! He is trying to disarm you.

Talking to Women’s Aid or similar local organisation is a good idea. Or even CAB.

Get the order.

This is so common! Abuse is exhausting, absolutely exhausting. Abusers are fixated, they never give up. Push through OP, follow the advice of professionals who are trying to protect you.

Thanks all.

He's been abusive for years and years.

It's mostly harrassment in the parenting app, reporting me to authorities for things I haven't done and coming over at the school gate when he doesn't need to do so.

I'm just worn out with it all.

Hi
Can you advise me of the outcome please, I'm currently in a very similar situation.

Thankyou

Hi @Kat2233

He did calm down for a while. A few things helped. Me assertively telling him in the parenting app to not hassle me. A social worker told him to stop using school to harass me. His school-gate new girlfriend saw the light and dumped him.

This week however, he's back. False allegations to school..... My DS acting all over the place.... Being head worked by his Dad I think.....

So......

I hope that you're OK. Reading up, I think ppl might be right ref pursing an order x

Hi I have a court date for a non molestation order against my ex partner due to harrasment and stalking from him since our split, not during the relationship.
He has said he is going to tell the court of situations that happened during our relationship to basically make me look bad. However these situations (which were times I was in a bad place mentally due to being absolutely miserable in the relationship) are irrelevant to why I'm applying for the order. Will they be taken into account on the day?

You should really start your own thread rather than resurrect an old thread. You may get people answering the OP, not noticing your question.

Unless he can convince the court that the situations he refers to justify his actions after your split (e.g. they raised concerns about your ability to raise your children and he was checking they were safe), the court will not be interested.

He promised to behave, oh well, that's fine then, he'll absolutely keep to his word! What planet are you on?