Post separation abuse via legal system

[Greenhell82]

Hi

I'm just looking for some advice and some ideas for extra support.

I was in a relationship for 9 years with an abusive man who used coercive control, financial contol, sleep depravation and physical abuse throughout. We have 2 children together and I have 2 children from previous relationships.
We split up in February 2021, have been divorced for 3 years properly this month. He's still in control of everything somehow and won't stop.
I still live in the marital home butbive been trying to move home for over 2 years. He has consistently demanded I move out so he can sell every 6 to 8 months since 2021. I agree and then he refuses to let me move with our children or change any contact arrangements. No options left but to stay put.
The latest cycle began in mid September, move out, ok I will, no you can't or I'll take you to court. 6 weeks into this cycle he is threatening fines and enforcement orders if I do what he asked at the start.
I am now in the process of getting a specific issue order and a variation to the Child Arrangement Order as he is saying I must stay the house I was told to vacate unless he sees the particulars for my new home and gives his consent.
He continually threatens court proceedings, police involvement, fines or imprisonment for me if I don't comply with his demands. Each time flashbacks start again, anxiety....
I can not continue like this. He is again trying to stop me moving near to my family (1 hour from my current location) and I believe he is seeking to isolate me from my family and friends again. I was cut off for 6 years during our marriage.
I really am losing hope in the system and I've got a terrible feeling Cafcass will side with him again. He kept complaining until they gave him a report he liked the last time. 50/50 even though Cafcass said no more than 2 days at a time because the kids dont like going with him.
Any advice or positive experiences? I've heard nothing but Dad normally wins and so far that's my experience too. He admitted abuse, and the judge said to leave it in the past. Bonkers

Rx

You may have tried this already, but is they a local woman's refuge who can help support you? They will have seen manipulators like him before.
The other thing that struck me from your post was that he threatens these things and it's seems you then comply (quite understandably because he sounds horrendous).

Have your tried ignoring his threats and letting him put his threats into action? Again, in sure it's not that simple and no doubt you're worn down by him so everything feels like a mountain to climb.
But I can't see a court having a problem with you finding a home for your children away from the former marital home. And am hours distance is nothing really!

I hope you can get the support you need, please talk to womans aid for help.