Hi, name changed for this as it's very outing. I left my H seven years ago. He remained in our home, I had got a job quite far away so moved into rented. Children were already adults by this point. One lived there ft and still does, others back and forth in Uni holidays. We are still not divorced. The reason is that I will not proceed until I have a clear idea about finances. It suits him not to proceed because he doesn't want to move but crucially doesn't want to give me a penny of what he sees as his money. We have had several discussions around money but it's the house we cannot get anywhere on. He doesn't want to sell and buy somewhere else but neither will he buy me out. My name is on the mortgage and deeds so I can't get a new mortgage. The reason why I haven't, yet, instructed a solicitor is because he's really nasty. I was hoping he would agree to our financial arrangements before going any further. However I now realise this was stupid of me. It was a pattern in my marriage, trying not to antagonise him. I'm perfectly happy for him to keep the house if he buys me out. His argument is that to do that he would have to extend the mortgage which he is close to paying off. But even I think the situation can't go on, because I feel massively hard done to. I need a kick up the arse. Please advise v