It’s a long story but me and my ex partner went to court in at the beginning of 2023 back for agreements on our children. He was struggling finically for some time so we agreed to take his weekends down to alternate weekends just until he got back on his feet. He can’t keep a job to save his life! Since 2022 he has had 4 different jobs and since then it’s been an up and down spiral of my kids not seeing there dads for weeks on end or him simply change his weekends to fit around whatever job he got bare in mind this is under two years worth of jobs so the change is constant I have a 4 year old with autism. I basically raise my kids on my own I have to go to appointments for him and with my other two kids Some are impossible every time I have asked him to help take the kids appointments ect he says he will and then comes the day and he won’t show and this is every time! If i need help he tells me “I can’t keep putting my life on hold for you” while I gave up my job and my life to raise our children single handed.. he recently lost his job and has got a new one and informed me that his hour have yet again changed because he asked for weekends that fell on my weekends. I had recently applied for a job witch I told him fell on my weekends and I was restricted to days I could pay for child care as everywhere is fully booked so my weekends was the only time I could get the time. He told me “well you have to deal with it because I’m not losing my job” but because of me not being able to do the hour requested because of this change I lost my job. I feel as it’s unfair and controlling I really can’t take much more i left him because of domestics and was put in refugee it feels like a way to control my life and what I do so I’ll always be depended on him! And it’s not fair on me and my kids living life off of his shirt patterns when he doesn’t even seen my children 96hr a month I’m confused on what I can do