I will need to go to a solicitor to help me explore some civil law.
I am interested in applying for a barring order or restraining order.
I am suffering from harassment for nearly a decade from the falling out of a now ex friend.
It began from an arguement by me. It was never planned. It was weeks of stressful patch and frayed nerves. It was never intentional.
She has behaved since then as if I am a psychopath. We haven't seen each other in over 8 years but her hate is a fresh today as it was back then. She's just someone who is impossible to please.
She's been controlling since then. Her communications is examining every piece of my being and interrogating me, demanding for explainations and apologies as if she is owed, blaming me, raising old issues, accusations, insults, and just completely unreasonable behaviour.
I remember at one point in 2018 engaging with her and all she did was lead me around in circles even though I was mindful she was hurt and I was respectful. It got me nowhere. I remember apologising to her but she ran me around in circles. She didn't want to take it. In some of the newer communications from her she has claimed that I never apologised to her. She's obtuse.
There was a year she was very bad. She was texting my brother and calling him very bad names that would need a trigger warning here beginning with P. There was no truth in what she was saying. She just wanted a bad name to stick.
Then another time she sent me a message with a link to overseas. She stalked my family who lives on another continent. The linked she sent me was just that and there was unwritten words and threat - 'i know who they are and you can't run from me and give me what I want or else' She never typed those words though.
She was contacting my employer and during the worse of it all I reacted and responded with the same. Since then she has turned the tables back onto me and used it as a licence to continue contacting my employer.
I lost some of the older material that she sent me.
I haven't seen her in years.
The second last communication from me was in December of 2020. She was sending me messages on a burner profile with her own name. I don't usually reply but I replied out of pity and wrote something like I hope she's warm and safe. It was only just fuel for her to keep lashing out at me.
I get a sense that she wants me to reconcile with her but she's not using those words and she wants 100% me to fix things. I don't know.
She keeps contacting me. I don't respond to her except in spring of 2023 to tell her to leave me alone and stop contacting me. It only just fueled months of anger and abuse from her and more of her contacting my employer yet again.
The police never helped me.
I was really hoping she would just go away and leave me alone hit she never did. I even have mail from her. She sent me mail over the years too. It wasn't responded to.
I need to go to a solicitor and go down the route of applying to court for an order.
I am anxious because a lot of the communications from her is muddy. Just her and pure dirt against me.
I think she's someone who would have no problem going to court without a solicitor. She would likely get advise from an American forum and represent herself and just argue with a judge to get a professional to agree with her that she's right and I am wrong. I don't know.
She would drag me down.
At the end of the day, I am being harassed. She won't leave me alone. This connection is broken between us. I can't fix this. All I want and need in my life is peace. For her just leave me alone. That is all.
If I was applying to the court with what I have, would that happen. Would a judge take what I have? Or will the court allow her a chance to counterclaim? Where it will likely get very messy from her. She will be enraged and just point more fingers and turn the tables on me.
Has anyone got experience like this? From just pure disgruntled exes be them partners or anyone else.