Harassment issue

[Blondee99]

So basically my ex partner who I have a non mol against for stalking and intimidating me in his new partners car and on foot. It has now came out in a court case (not mine) that he only holds a provisional license.
He drives around speeding, alone in the car with no plates and has done since 3 months after we split up just over 2 years ago.
Since finding out he only has a learners license any time I have seen him driving alone or getting into the vehicle alone to drive I have been reporting it to the police and taking a photo or video as my proof so it's not just hearsay.
There was an altercation between my ex and my new partner 3 weeks ago that my partner recorded and in the video my partner asks 'wheres ur license?' as the ex was driving the car tail gating my partner my ex shouts 'i have a provisional'
Last night the police came to my door to tell me they have reported me for harassment and that I have to do an interview next week. I explained why I had been reporting and taking photos and they checked their dvla system in front of me and told me my ex partner does hold a full license and has had it long enough to be out of their 'R' plates. I am now worried about this and so confused.. I was only reporting a crime I believed was being committed. I'm just looking a bit of advice as to where I stand with all this

What are R plates please?

TBH I can see why the Police would see this as behaviour warranting investigation.

You may want legal advice?

Duty Solicitor?

Restricted plates, after passing a driving test you are restricted for a year and must display the plates, sorry they maybe called something different where ur from.

I have a solicitor as he is currently taking me to court for access to the child we share.

Well he has a full license

So you need to stop harassing him/his partner and focus on your own case

@Blondee99 OK, a quick Google suggests that in the UK R plates are a Northern Irish thing.

In GB we have a voluntary system of P plates for new drivers.

Assume NI as that is how it is done there but I have no idea what you can do about it all to be honest but you are not doing yourself any favours as it now looks like you are the one stalking and harassing him. You have a non mol, surely you are not allowed to be around him either?

You said it came out in a court case that he only had a provisional license and that you have proof he said this 3 weeks ago. If that is true then you had a reasonable belief you were reporting crime and the police should have told you sooner if that was untrue. You should, however, have assumed he would have taken and passed a test after, say, a year.

It's difficult to reconcile that with the police telling you he has a license but obviously you stop reporting now.

The recording of him saying the license was provisional is crucial.

I never meant to harass anyone I thought I was reporting a crime and usually they ask for any evidence which is why I was getting the evidence. Nor am I harassing his new partner. He was the one that was stalking and intimidating me to the point I had to get a non mol which is why I was reporting him when it came out he was only on a provisional because he was using her car to do so and I believed he didn't even have a license this whole time. He has destroyed my life when we were together he was abusive when we separated he was constantly reporting me for false and malicious allegations and then he was stalking and harassing me, so when this information came out I was trying to report this so they could see he had been breaking the law all along by driving with no license. I can't understand why the courts and himself would say he only has a provisional but the dvla system says different

So is he still stalking you? Because that is the crime you need to focus on. His licence stance is nothng to you per se. It will look like a tit for tat thing you reporting this.

the non mol is against him that he can't stalk, harass, intimate or ask anyone for information on me, he used to intimate me at my work place, park outside my home, everywhere I went he was there behind me either on foot or in that car

So was he stalking you whilst in the vehicle, or going about his daily business?

Yes but you are saying he used to do it so not anymore meaning he is keeping to the non mol and that is all you need to be concerned with. Again his licence is not anything to do with you although I can see your concern but the police will see this as you poking the hornets nest now you have reported it. You need to put him and anything he does out of your mind if he is doing what the non mol states he should do and do not concern yourself with his new partner, licence or any part of his life again.

I think you saw the opportunity to report him as a way of getting your own back for his (admittedly awful) behaviour towards you. What’s it got to do with you what license he’s got?

You’ll probably post now and say you want him to be a safe driver for driving your child, but that wasn’t the point of your first post. It sounded gleeful that you could report him on multiple occasions.

And stand up rows in the street?! None of this is going to make for a smooth, adult discussion in court about access to the poor child stuck in the middle. You both need to do what’s right for her.

He’s clearly an awful man if you got the non mol against him. So keep that distance. Why are you reading about court cases against him? Just don’t give him this headspace!

I'm not reading about court cases against him this was from the mother of his other child who he is fighting to see in court because the kids went back to their mum and reported him drinking and driving with them in the car. This man is a serial offender and gets away with everything, and whats it to do with me is because he's driving past me as I'm about to cross the road at 60 miles an hour in a 30 outside a primary school, he was driving that car while stalking and harassing me when all along he supposedly never even had a license to begin with. The row happened in the street because again he was acting jack the wack and tail gating my partner. This is what he does he pushes and pushes to intimate and I'm just supposed to sit here and be quiet, my partner doesn't come under my non mol so my ex takes it upon himself to show off and get on like a dickhead to everyone else including my mother and when I try and do something about it I'm accused of harassment

If you've got a non mol against him and he's bothering you it needs reporting.

Otherwise keep out of his way.

I'm just supposed to sit here and be quiet,

No, @Blondee99, of course not. But if you can reframe that into ‘I’m not going to rise to it, I am not going to let him wind me up or scare me any more’ you will take away his power.

He is obviously a dick. And it’s wrong that he stalked and harassed you. I get that you don’t want to look like ‘he’s won’ by sitting here and being quiet.

He wins when you or your partner show that he’s got to you.

It's possible he only had a provisional license at first but then passed his test. The police have now told you he has a license so you have to stop reporting him for that. If he tailgates your partner then your partner reports it, if he bothers your mother she reports it.

Your time line is unclear. When was the court case where he had a provisional. Was it three years ago?

it does appear that you’ve also been harassing him. I mean taking one photo is one thing, doing it repeatedly is something else entirely

the pair of you need to grow up and stay away from each other.