Remove parental rights of a father

[Rozee]

sorry to ask and the title sounds terrible but my XH is causing all sorts of issues for both my children who live with me 100%- he really doesn’t deserve to have any say in their upbringing and I don’t say that lightly - is there a legal way to stop him having any rights /say in their lives ?

Neither do a lot of mothers! 🤷‍♀️

Not many narcissist mothers around

After 3 yrs of their father trying to force them to live with him and his latest partner (that alone has significantly affected their health) the court listened to them and they now live 💯 with me as is their wishes - I still facilitate and encourage them to spend time with him albeit he doesn’t contribute financially or logistically to their lives and does his best to make my life as difficult as possible.

Talking about a specific MAN here though so blah blah NAMALT

Honestly are men like this on their forums? My wife won't do xyz well MY wife does so you are WRONG 🙄

My children had their surnames changed to mine after three no shows for final hearings and 5 1/2 years in court of vexatious litigation. He still had PR though. I know someone who still had to have 1 hour per month supervised contact with a Father that abused her and her Mother. He had been convicted and imprisoned for it.

Who cares 🤷‍♀️

IMO the term is way overused on mn, but you only have to look at these boards to see that there are an awful lot of toxic mothers around.

so are you saying that the court have removed all contact?

Thankfully the law is changing

https://rapecrisis.org.uk/news/parents-with-sexual-offenses-against-any-child-will-now-automatically-lose-parental-rights/

Only on mumsnet do I hear this. I don't suppose the OP went into marriage and having children knowing it would end like this. People change of don't show their true colours. It's such an arrogant and patronising thing to say, are you perfect, have you never found yourself in a situation that you regret or wish you could change.
It's dismissive and for a community of mums (net) shows real ignorance about abusive relationships and the terror you feel for your children when there is such a man in their lives. How about being supportive of saying nothing. Your life isn't over yet, I hope you never go through something like this or will you ride back and tell me all of your decisions have been carefully measured.