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Friend drove my car whilst on a ban

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user3837264 · 20/09/2024 14:32

Hello, I really need some advice. I have name changed for this for obvious reasons.

A few days ago I had a few drinks at the pub so my friend offered to drive us home in my car as I was over the limit. Great, I thought.

Turns out he's got a speeding fine in my car. 62 in a 50. The letter arrived today and I have to name the driver.

I mentioned it to him today as there is photographic evidence of him driving. He is male I am female btw.

He has informed me he has no insurance and is on a ban.

I had no idea.

He is telling me to use a random man's name and say I met him in the pub so I don't know his address.

I'm worried and I don't know what to do. He could face prison as this isn't his first offence/he is on tag (again, I didn't know this at the time)

Please don't flame me, I am so worried and don't know what to do for the best.

Shall I just say it was me and hope they don't check the camera evidence? I will take the points and fine to make this all go away.

I know I've been very stupid. I just didn't want to risk drink/driving.

TIA xxx

OP posts:
NQOCDarling · 24/09/2024 06:09

I know I've been very stupid. I just didn't want to risk drink/driving.
Then why take your car to the pub? Did you think you would only have 1 alcoholic drink and then switch to pop? If so, what changed? At the point you downed alcohol drink number 2 did you realise you would have to make alternative plans to get home?
Given you were over the limit, was your cognition functioning enough to know how much your ankle-tagged, uninsured 'friend' hadn't also had a bevvy or 2?
Neither party has covered themselves in glory here, and the fact he has asked you to lie and that you are asking if you should, speaks volumes

Arafon · 24/09/2024 06:15

OP hasn't bothered to come back

Hameth · 25/09/2024 06:55

Do not lie otherwise you will go to prison.

GingerTravel · 25/09/2024 07:05

I am a former criminal barrister who specialised in motoring offences. It's not really a forum where people will know the answer to this. Some of the 'advice' on here is reckless, some is downright dangerous but most is roughly along the right lines. Do not worry and do feel free to message me.

JollyZebra · 25/09/2024 07:23

Name him. His choice to drive, his choice to speed. Do not try to pervert the course of justice,- you would get a criminal record if caught.

Widower2014 · 25/09/2024 07:35

user3837264 · 20/09/2024 14:32

Hello, I really need some advice. I have name changed for this for obvious reasons.

A few days ago I had a few drinks at the pub so my friend offered to drive us home in my car as I was over the limit. Great, I thought.

Turns out he's got a speeding fine in my car. 62 in a 50. The letter arrived today and I have to name the driver.

I mentioned it to him today as there is photographic evidence of him driving. He is male I am female btw.

He has informed me he has no insurance and is on a ban.

I had no idea.

He is telling me to use a random man's name and say I met him in the pub so I don't know his address.

I'm worried and I don't know what to do. He could face prison as this isn't his first offence/he is on tag (again, I didn't know this at the time)

Please don't flame me, I am so worried and don't know what to do for the best.

Shall I just say it was me and hope they don't check the camera evidence? I will take the points and fine to make this all go away.

I know I've been very stupid. I just didn't want to risk drink/driving.

TIA xxx

Your so called friend is asking you to lie or perverting the course of justice.....
Tell the truth and accept the consequences

HoppityBun · 25/09/2024 07:40

Tell the truth

Clearinguptheclutter · 25/09/2024 07:41

You absolutely say the truth
what an idiot (him not you)

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 25/09/2024 07:42

He's no friend, don't cover for him. Tell the truth.

SummerFade · 25/09/2024 07:45

Own your mistakes and tell the truth. Sounds like you need to grow up fast and start taking responsibility for your poor decisions and maybe cut out the drinking for a bit too.

Driving to a pub then choosing to drink a significant quantity of alcohol when you don’t already have a plan to return home is pretty daft.

You didn’t bother to check that your friend was a competent and legal driver before giving him the keys to your car either. How much had he had to drink?

You were unbelievably lucky that he didn’t have an accident on the way home. Your car insurance wouldn’t have covered him or any damage to your car.

BadlyDrawnRoy · 25/09/2024 07:51

What everyone else is saying.....it's all on you, really, for accepting his "very kind offer". Oh, and please stop drinking if you're on your car. Idiot.

Nothanks17 · 25/09/2024 08:07

Your 'friend' should never ever have put you in this position, or ask you to lie.

Yes they are probably scared but they made that choice, silly of them to even speed knowing they were banned. Tell the truth.

Cece54 · 25/09/2024 10:14

You were quite foolish in allowing him to drive your car without checking. I'm pretty sure there is an offence of "cause or permit" someone to drive your vehicle.... which means you could get fined or points too. Absolutely do not lie about it.... you must say who the driver was. There is also an offence of attempting to pervert the course of justice. (I used to be secretary in a traffic cops dept) you'll only be worsening the situation.

brendacato · 25/09/2024 10:17

Tell the truth and never drive your car when you know you will be drinking alcohol. Call a Uber or Lyft which will be much cheaper than what you are about to face..you may need an attorney which is not very expensive..The most you will pay is 250-300 dollars

Dinkydo12 · 25/09/2024 11:49

Have to name him. He didn't give you the information when he offered to drive your car. You could get a high fine and prison if you lie.

Gillywoo1978 · 25/09/2024 12:11

Tell the truth. They'll have photo evidence. It's his own fault.

Hyperbowl · 25/09/2024 12:41

Your “friend” is reckless, irresponsible and a liar. Instead of learning from their mistakes they went out of their way again and broke the law and is perfectly happy for you to get into serious trouble to protect them. That is fraudulent and if you lie you are committing the crime of perverting the course of justice. A very serious offence. Actions have consequences and maybe a spell in prison or suspended sentence will be enough of a wake up call to them to grow up and not behave in such a manner. He was banned because he is not considered competent to be on the road, don’t enable him further to be a danger to other people. He is not remotely your friend he is a user and not remorseful at all for his actions. Playing stupid games wins you stupid and rightly deserved prizes - report him and don’t even dream of getting yourself into trouble. What a despicable man he is.

wonderings2 · 25/09/2024 12:45

He was on a tag and banned from driving, even if he was going to be stupid enough to drive surely he shouldn't have exceeded the speed limit?

You seem to think this is a decision OP but it isn't, you claim it was you as they have evidence it wasn't. He chose to drive and speed while banned and now there are consequences - you cant get him out of this?

YerArseInParsley · 25/09/2024 12:51

user3837264 · 20/09/2024 14:32

Hello, I really need some advice. I have name changed for this for obvious reasons.

A few days ago I had a few drinks at the pub so my friend offered to drive us home in my car as I was over the limit. Great, I thought.

Turns out he's got a speeding fine in my car. 62 in a 50. The letter arrived today and I have to name the driver.

I mentioned it to him today as there is photographic evidence of him driving. He is male I am female btw.

He has informed me he has no insurance and is on a ban.

I had no idea.

He is telling me to use a random man's name and say I met him in the pub so I don't know his address.

I'm worried and I don't know what to do. He could face prison as this isn't his first offence/he is on tag (again, I didn't know this at the time)

Please don't flame me, I am so worried and don't know what to do for the best.

Shall I just say it was me and hope they don't check the camera evidence? I will take the points and fine to make this all go away.

I know I've been very stupid. I just didn't want to risk drink/driving.

TIA xxx

Why u taking a car to the pub in the first place? Where u going to drive home until he offered?

Do not lie for him u will get into trouble, he already is that's why he wants u to lie.

ThePure · 25/09/2024 12:53

You want to take the fall for this person??
Really??

He got banned. He lied and then he wasn't even clever enough to not speed so he didn't get caught. Then he tries to get you to lie and commit an offence to take the fall for him.

He's an idiot and not much of a friend to you

You would be an absolute tit to get yourself in trouble covering for this muppet. You just tell the truth. You owe him nothing.

RachTheAlpaca · 25/09/2024 13:37

Absolutely do not claim the points and fine, most ridiculous thing I've ever heard!

Name the driver and tell your 'friend' that they ID'd him from the photo or something if you don't want to take the blame

Can't believe what I've just read, do not take responsibility for this, its fraud you could get into big trouble!

Swiftie1878 · 25/09/2024 13:59

user3837264 · 20/09/2024 14:32

Hello, I really need some advice. I have name changed for this for obvious reasons.

A few days ago I had a few drinks at the pub so my friend offered to drive us home in my car as I was over the limit. Great, I thought.

Turns out he's got a speeding fine in my car. 62 in a 50. The letter arrived today and I have to name the driver.

I mentioned it to him today as there is photographic evidence of him driving. He is male I am female btw.

He has informed me he has no insurance and is on a ban.

I had no idea.

He is telling me to use a random man's name and say I met him in the pub so I don't know his address.

I'm worried and I don't know what to do. He could face prison as this isn't his first offence/he is on tag (again, I didn't know this at the time)

Please don't flame me, I am so worried and don't know what to do for the best.

Shall I just say it was me and hope they don't check the camera evidence? I will take the points and fine to make this all go away.

I know I've been very stupid. I just didn't want to risk drink/driving.

TIA xxx

If you lie, YOU could go to prison.
You have to tell the truth.

Nanny0gg · 25/09/2024 14:16

Tell the truth and thank everyone's lucky stars that there wasn't an accident

Twentyfourtigs · 25/09/2024 16:18

My partner took my car to the gym when I was sick. One of them ones where he just lifted whatever keys were handiest. My insurance hadn’t went though. I had just had a miscarriage, and instead of ringing, I just done a new policy and thought that was me sorted. The insurance company text to say it would be cancelled and I assumed they meant the original one. It turned out they cancelled both. I wasn’t aware and anyway he got done for no insurance. I didn’t get points though - I don't know why. The police were here and I couldn’t find my policy that I’d printed out. The insurance expired on like the 5th and he drove on the 7th. I also wouldn’t have noticed until the following month when my direct debit didn’t go through.

He got a few points and a fine. Equally, he wasn’t banned from driving when he drove.

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