Ex court order

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Share 50/50 with child’s dad. In our order we have to support child in after school activities. Child recently said she doesn’t want to attend a class anymore. Dad still wants to take her and has said he will take me back to court as I am going against order by not taking her on my week? Child has been going for 3 years and has now grown out of this class yet when approached by dad she is ‘worried about his reaction’ so tells me she lies and said she still wants to attend. I’m worried how this is affecting her as it’s an optional activity that she is now being forced to attend. Will the courts listen to him? Will we need mediation before attending court if it’s been 2 years since the order? Bit of advice please. Can give more of a back story through messages if needed. Thanks

You should attempt mediation first if possible.

You don't say how old your child is, but her views will be taken into account by the court. The older she is, the more weight her views will carry.

How old is she?

Never mind - court won't care and if she doesn't want to go she doesn't have to. Let him take you to court, to be honest, I'm not even sure I'd bother to attend the hearing.

Or just agree with your ex and don't take her. How will he even know?

She’s 8, I wasn’t sure whether mediation is first again before court. However medication last time just ended up with him speaking over me the whole time and nothing resolved. I wonder if there’s something like mediation where our child could attend with us?
Basically bit of a background, his partner and himself work a lot and so use ‘clubs’ as a way of childcare. He was told in court in order to have 50/50 he can’t use childcare as obviously I am able to have our child, so this is the way he’s managed to get around that. She has two children a similar age as ours. So the clubs the other children attend, his partner attempts to put mine into. So on my week if I don’t take her to her club, he will find out as his partner is there with her child.

It sounds like shuttle mediation is for you.
You and ex sit in different rooms and the mediator moves from one room to the other.