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Is there anything I can do about this? Harassment?

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kayla12345 · 21/08/2024 12:27

So bit of a long post I'm afraid and I'm some advise. My partners ex wife is the issue.

We've been together a few years now but her behaviour has previously harassment, she had a Verbal warning from the police for harassing my partner so the behaviour improved but the kids have recently made some comments with unnerve me.

So historically (circa 2 years ago) her behaviour was bad - tried to force entry to my house (got the video), sat outside my house (again evidence for this), recorded phone calls between us unknowingly and sent them to people, got her friends to add me on Facebook, sent me 50+ Instagram messages in a day and I only replied twice (being civil but asking to be left alone), she got photos off my social media and sent them to numerous people including my bf family, spread lies about me and was generally a nightmare.

Due to her behaviour towards him she received a formal warning so all of this stopped but I've never reported the harassment towards me to the police.

However we've been away with his kids this week who've told me that their mum had a second Facebook account to look at me and is always getting my pictures off social media and sending them to people. Additionally some of her extended family have approached my family at a hobby.

Obviously I have no evidence for the recent events and I'm not sure if the police would do anything as she's not directly contacting me but she's blocked on all social media and still manages to get pictures from my socials and redistribute them - I'm away this is a copyright but not really a police matter.

Is there anything I can do? Can I report the historical stuff along with this or am I wasting my time?

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Lovelysummerdays · 21/08/2024 12:29

Not sure about the police thing but I’d lock down your socials so can only be seen by confirmed friends.

BobbyBiscuits · 21/08/2024 12:43

If your socials are private I don't see how she's getting hold of your pictures? I guess there's no harm in telling the police the whole story. Whether they'll do much is another matter but it's bothering you and you are still feeling harassed by her. I guess you could try and get a restraining order?

kayla12345 · 21/08/2024 12:50

My socials are private but it's profile picture, anything I post in a public group or get tagged in.
Additionally for a time she's created fake accounts to add me (like new small local businesses) and used other people to get pictures of me.

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Nextdoor55 · 21/08/2024 17:59

This might be an odd question, but have you asked her what she wants?
Just wondering if she's ok, seems like a worrying way to behave, especially as she's looking after shared children. If I was your DP I'd be concerned & want to make sure she's ok.
I'm sure it's annoying for you but I would try not to bring the children into this in any way, they will struggle with this for sure

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