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New Dilemma

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BeeBee79 · 11/08/2024 18:58

My daughter “lives with” me and “spends time” with her Father under court order. He had court ordered no contact for considerable time due to violent, aggressive behaviour but this has, somewhat successfully increased overtime, Father tried to increase contact time last year and the. Court using all evidence rejected this. I always make the children available for their contact time, he most turns up (missed Fathers Day due to watching Euros football match) basically what I am saying is for the first time in years contact is fairly smooth and most importantly the child is in a firm routine.

I have recently found out that a family member has just been released on bail, this person lives with my child’s grandmother (an individual who provides a lot of their care including frequent overnights wot this person present during fathers court allocated time) I do not have a choice about the child minders he chooses under strict court order so please no commentary on this. My question is …… the bail was considerable, £10k, I don’t know what the crime was, others involved or potential repercussions. Should I be concerned that the child is in the company of this person so often and worry or just let it go?

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Nextdoor55 · 11/08/2024 20:37

Have you asked the ex what the issue is? Can you ask them?
I'd say if you feel that ex is responsible & would ensure DC is cared for I'd leave it. But if you don't trust ex I'd start with asking more questions

MarshmallowVeronica · 11/08/2024 20:51

What country are you in?

You don’t have to pay for bail in the UK so this makes no sense.

Here: https://www.gov.uk/arrested-your-rights/how-long-you-can-be-held-in-custody

tiredandexhausted1995 · 12/08/2024 12:07

I think you can do a claire's law request for anyone the children spend a lot of time with, not sure if it is still called claire's law when its for children but 101 will know what you mean when you call.

This person living in a house that the children frequent especially the overnights would mean that the police may disclose anything about this person that is relevant i.e certain types of violence or sexual abuse, but also may decide that this persons crime/s do not pose a safeguarding risk and be unable to disclose anything. Either way you would know if the police deem there to be a risk and can act on that or you know that the police are not concerned for your children which may help reassure you a little

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