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Newlysinglemum1 · 30/07/2024 23:50

So stbxh is being investigated for possession and distribution of iioc grade a and b. The police have seized devices and have said that if nothing is found on the devices then they won't have enough evidence to meet the burden of proof for a conviction but they essentially know he's done it as this has come through their intelligence. He admitted it to me after the police interviewed him and I passed this on to social services.

My issue is this - what if there's not enough evidence on the devices to convict him? Right now I'm actually hoping for a conviction so that he won't have the right to apply for custody etc of ds (age 2) but what if he isn't convicted? How do I stop him for having access to my child? Do I have grounds to stop any form of contact?

He's the last person I would have expected this from and he has lied and hid this so incredibly well that I can't trust him not to appear very remorseful and credible to professionals and that scares me. I want to do all I can to protect ds and solicitor has already told me I can't change ds name and I can't ask stbxh not to seek contact as that's against the rights of my child. I'm planning to relocate a few hours away where I have family support.

Any advice?

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Newlysinglemum1 · 30/07/2024 23:56

I'm also struggling with family and friends telling me about how they feel so sorry for him that he's thrown his life away. I understand they're trying to reconcile the guy we all knew (who was really kind and gentle and decent) with this dark secret, but it's very upsetting to hear it because it scares me that people will underestimate him. That his family might facilitate contact.

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Newlysinglemum1 · 31/07/2024 11:51

Hopeful bump

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