Any family lawyers on here please?

[BlueBritish]

Hi, im just looking at someone that can point me in the right direction or give me some advice, I’m desperate to leave my partner but I don’t know where to start and I feel so trapped.

I have a DD age 4 and I need a way out of this relationship it’s so toxic.

I don’t know where to start the process and I don’t think there is enough out there to help.

TIA

If you don't find much response here, try Relationships where loads of women who have been through this will guide you.

If you’re not married you have no legal ties unless you own a property together or the child is his. Absent parent pays maintenance via the CMS. You need to get yourself off the tenancy or transfer it in to your name. That’s it really.

Do you work?
Do you have your own bank account?
Do you have any child benefit paid into that bank account?
Do you own or rent? If you rent whose name is on the agreement?

Thanks for the replies, I tried the relationship section and they advised me to come here 🤣
@DustyLee123
I do work part time.
I have my own bank account
yes I get 1 monthly payment of child benefit, no other benefits.
we have a mortgage that we are both on.

my biggest issue is, that I cannot have an adult conversation with him. So I don’t know how to start this ball rolling

Could you afford to take the house over by yourself, is he happy for you to buy him out, or are you going to sell?
If you’re selling, and he won’t have a conversation, get a solicitor to force the sale. Hopefully one letter will start him moving.
do you think he will want your child 50:50 ?

@DustyLee123 in the brief but very what seem manipulative conversations I have had he’s said he’d want to keep the house and buy me out- which I’m happy with. I would like to have my own owned home, how does this work as a single parent and I wouldn’t be able to get anywhere until he’s bought me out.

he wouldn’t be able to have the child 50:50 due to work commitments. he’s told me before he will cause a scene if I went through CSA but I don’t trust him enough to not go through them.

another issue is that my mum is renting his old home and he would probably want to sell that for more money so will have to break it to my mum she’ll need to find another home.

You need to see a legal person not rely on mumsnet for advice. Here you'll get loads of support but you need proper advice my love

Yes, definitely go through CSA.
It might be worth looking for somewhere to rent while he buys you out, maybe with DM if he kicks her out too.
Can you get a full time job? It might be worth looking to see if you’re entitled to any benefits too.
Good luck.

Hi
Hang on. You definitely need to speak to a solicitor. Are you married? If so you have a lot more rights than if living together.
Go see a Solicitor - some will do half hour free of charge. Or go to Citizens Advice. They sometimes have solicitor who does a weekly or monthly free advice session.
If he buys you out would your Mum be able to move in with you?
Do get some professional legal advice asap. If he’s been abusive or aggressive in any way report to Police.
Hope you get some advice soon.

@DustyLee123
i could get a few more hours at work however, I am currently doing a degree too

@Froniga I am not married, which is worrying me. I have spoken to citizens advice but they just gave me a list of websites I can find what I’m entitled too