Who is your power of attorney?

[mistymirror]

Who is your power of attorney and how many do you have?
If you have a spouse are they your power of attorney? If not then why?
Thanks!

I have my 2 grown up children as POAs My parents had my brother and I.

My husband is 5 years older than me. (60&65) we could have each other but if we are both old when we need to use the POA it's better to have younger & more able people.

I was POA for my first husband but he had a brain tumour so I knew he was going to die young.

My husband is POA for his father. His father is 96 and fully compos mentis but has visual and hearing problems so my husband manages all his banking etc.

When I met my husband 6 years ago his parents (then 90&91) were only just agreeing to get POA...as a GP I convinced them it was the right thing. They were each other's POA as well as my husband but my FIL removed his wife when she started to get argumentative with him (early dementia)

My DH is first on the list, friend and sister 2nd.
My parents have my sister and I and our husbands

I’m not sure why you wouldn’t have your spouse, unless the relationship is strained. They are the first person that is most likely going to need to step in if you lose capacity.

My parents (they did them early 70s) have each other and me (daughter). My brother (their only other child) lives abroad, and I am much more organised etc.

I'm just doing mine (early 50s) and have my 2 just adult children, I don't have a spouse although have a soon to be living together partner (not their dad) who I won't be including.

I’m not sure why you wouldn’t have your spouse, unless the relationship is strained. They are the first person that is most likely going to need to step in if you lose capacity.

I'm the POA for my mum and her husband. She manages the finances, he's clueless at anything online. I expect, if anything happens to my mum, I'll be pushing buttons according to his instructions 😄

I think PP also made a valid point about having someone younger. It wouldn't be unexpected for both halves of a couple to decline/need assistance in quick succession.

I don’t have it as there’s no one I’d trust to give it to. Me and DH have a very strained relationship, and my kids are not mature enough yet.

My husband

Recently discovered DH and I only have Finance, and only each other as our Attorneys.

Need to do them both for both of us, and to make the (grown up) kids our attorneys.

And I need to redo my will too.

Sigh.

My best friend. Spouse has recently died and no family. No second attorney as yet.

My brother and I have financial POA over my Mom’s finances (recent CVA and resulting dyscalcula).
DH &I have joint accounts and are beneficiaries to each other’s pensions.
Wills in place with our eldest as executor.
Not seeing a need for POA at this point.