Grandparent wanting to see son

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Basically help! I was in an abusive relationship with my sons father we went to court and they advised indirect contact, it has been 6 months since then and he is taking me back to court.

Anyway court proceedings have been on going for around 1.5 years and in that time I have met up with paternal grandfather maybe once every 3 months. I don’t enjoy the experience, he shows little interest in my son and likes to speak about himself and also drop into conversation issues relating to my ex such as ‘he’s changed’ and ‘would you allow x, y & z’. I have made it very clear he must stop as it is down to the courts, he apologised. Anyway since then I don’t want to meet up, it makes me anxious and uncomfortable and it just isn’t a priority for me to take time out and endure this unbearable man! Am I wrong to cut contact and await the outcome of the upcoming proceedings every minute with him I HATE.

Its not for you to facilitate contact with your Ex's Parents.
IF your Ex gets any access the Grandfather can see your son then. If not then its not your problem.
If he was nice and everyone enjoyed the interaction then it might be different but it sounds like this man is just trying to help his own son rather than you and your son. He could also be trying to establish a relationship with your son to help your Ex get access if the courts don't allow it
Just stop now

Thank you. I just always try to do what I think is the ‘right thing’ and never put myself first (probably how I ended up in this situation if I’m honest).