Hi everyone,
I put a post on here back in march. In short I was involved in a very toxic relationship for the past 3 years with my ex. I left him before our child was born in march due to his alcohol and drugs use. He has also been verbally and physically abusive throughout the relationship but I never went to the police. he would threaten to kill me and told me if I ever crossed him I’d know about it
after our baby was born he shook him at 3 days old and shouted wtf is wrong with you when baby wouldn’t stop crying. He also pushed me 3 times when I was holding our baby. And also shouted in our babies face as a way to “settle” him - in a bid of who showing baby who was boss in his words.
I didn’t go to the police and I know this was wrong of me and I should have but I was terrified of what he would do.
in short he would also makes threats throughout the 3 years, and one time he followed through with a threat and rang the police on me. He falsely accused me of being aggressive towards him, all of which wasn’t true but he wanted to scare me and it worked.
we had court today and he has raised that I am an agressive person and have had to call the police in the past. I didn’t get to explain the truth behind this even though I have no evidence. What can I do about this??
i have also been ordered by the court to pay for his drug test? Is this normal protocol?
I feel I am now getting the brunt of accusations due to his lies. I am at a loss where to turn I really don’t want to lose our baby. Especially after everything he did during the first couple of weeks of his life.
please help.