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my ex and his girlfriend

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rivertiff · 05/07/2024 21:24

hi i new hear and wanted some advise i have a 4 year old and me and her dad have been separated for 2 and a half years he’s had girlfriends in the past and i’ve never had a problem with them as well he’s always been in and out of our child’s life but he has a new girlfriend and she gets involved and is very nasty we normally go through my exes dad and he had told me this week he was having her next weekend so my child asked for her auntie and uncle to stay over as there a close in age and go cinema ect then he has said i want her this weekend and i was like i’m sorry i can’t it’s not my fault that your dad mixed it up so he had called me getting nasty i asked multiple times for him to stop having a go at me and then his girlfriend came on the phone and was calling me every name under the Sun and telling me to watch out and I don’t want her around my child when my child comes home from her dads she acts out swearing hitting and it’s not only me that notice as well as that his Dad is very nasty to me as well if I can’t do a weekend that they want as it’s supposed to be every other weekend, but they always change to suit themselves they moved in together after five months with her child as well and I found out she was going to stay round his house with his girlfriend and her kid through daughter I’m just wondering what my best option is to do as I don’t want to continue the way it is would I be in the wrong if I stopped contact?

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POTC · 05/07/2024 21:27

Breathe. Calm down. Your stress is obvious from your post.
Then try again, read what you've written and write it again with some full stops in there. I want to help but couldn't get to the end as there are just too many words all in one for my brain to process.

AnneLovesGilbert · 05/07/2024 21:33

Is contact a private arrangement or an official arrangement?

rivertiff · 05/07/2024 21:44

a private agreement

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rivertiff · 05/07/2024 21:45

a private agreement

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letsgoooo · 05/07/2024 21:46

Yeah sorry but you need some punctuation. It's hard to follow as there is just one massive sentence and it's impossible to understand what some of it says.

Needanadultgapyear · 06/07/2024 14:20

Several things come into my mind that would help:

Stop using third parties and phone calls, have a parenting app and get a schedule on it so it is clear to see who is having her when.
Messages in the app read them, have a good think and reply when you are calm and able to make a unemotional response.
As much as you hate it when your DD is with your Ex he gets to decide who is around I. The same way he can't dictate who comes to your home.
If your DD is acting out keep records and if it is regular talk to your GP about support for her.

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