I’m looking for some advice/guidance/people to share their experience I guess. I will try to keep a long and pretty crummy story short. I split from my partner of 15 years (not married) in January. We have two kids, jointly owned housed that we bought 9 years ago. There was abuse throughout our relationship and since separation there has been police involvement and I have had to submit not one but two applications for non-molestation orders because first time round undertakings and then almost immediately breached. Second an order was granted. Due to related issues I have also started the child arrangements process annnnd finally, my next steps are to find a way to get the house sold so I can get the hell on with my life and find a new home for me and the children.
So here is the current issue…. We own as joint tenants, no deed of trust that states otherwise and so the split is 50/50. He has been advised of this on multiple occasions and it seemed that he had accepted his fate, we got the house on the market, sold subject to contract and now he is refusing to progress through the sale as he wants a bigger share of the equity. His dad gave us some money that went towards the deposit and now he is demanding that on top of the 50/50 split. He has not made a legal challenge for this, he is just bullying me via my solicitor. I don’t want peoples opinions on this bit, what I would really like is to hear about any experiences getting court orders under TOLATA to order and grant the applicant control of the sale, rough costs and timescales, any top tips, things not to do etc etc etc. Is this something anyone has done as litigant in person?
Basically, I am drowning in court applications and need some encouragement to carry on fighting and to not just stop paying the mortgage and let the bank take us both down. I am emotionally exhausted, already racking up solicitors fees to have achieved absolutely nothing, it has been months of continuous turmoil and I am really, really done in.