My grandad died recently, and my mum was his only child. They had a rocky relationship and due to her being irresponsible with money (overspending and subsequently losing a house and another inheritance, including money left to me and my brother), my grandad changed his will about 15 years ago, and divided his estate into equal parts between her and his grandchildren. He made me and my brother the executors and didn’t inform our mum of this. All of us have always suspected she has an undiagnosed mental illness and to him, this seemed like the best way to ensure the money would be passed on fairly, and would make up for our inheritance we’d lost due to her actions.
Fast forward to this year, he died in January. He was quite unwell before he died and unable to communicate with us and our mum blocked us from seeing him. When he died, she also refused to tell us funeral details so we couldn’t attend, and told us we were no longer executors as his will had been changed last summer, with her as the sole executor and beneficiary. She refused to let us see the will, saying it would become public once probate was granted. We had an OK relationship with her before this but literally on the day he died, she turned really nasty towards us and as soon as she told us he’d died, basically told us to back off as she’s inherited everything.
Since then, she has moved into his house and has bought lots of new things, cars etc, using his money (she got power of attorney before he died). She is close to bankruptcy (again) so definitely hasn’t got the funds to buy new cars etc herself.
However, probate hasn’t been granted (even though lots of later deaths have been granted already) and the land registry still shows my grandad (and late nanny) as the owners of the house. We suspect she’s deliberately not applied for probate and has just moved in and continued spending money as she has access to his account.
Can she do this if probate hasn’t been granted? I wonder if she’s either dodging inheritance tax, or deliberately hiding the contents of the will? Any advice would be gratefully received, on what kind of questions we should be asking. For us, it’s partly about the will but mainly it’s doing the right thing and not fraudulently draining a dead man’s bank account whilst living in his house and withholding the fact he’s dead?!