Background
So after a three year abusive relationship (mental and emotional and a little financially) we separated in September 23. We tried to co-parent but after failing to turn up at correct times, demanding overnights when it wasn’t safe and continually threatening court when he wouldn’t get his own way I realised it wasn’t going to work. he grabbed me in an argument, got arrested and then wore me down to drop charges making me feel guilty and stupidly I fell for it.
I agreed to a trial period, after three weeks he went back to his usual behaviour, going through my phone and causing arguments about things I had said to my friends. There was a second altercation where he was shouting and screaming at me in front of our child (21months) in the middle of the night waking her and then snapping at her. Removed my phone from me so I couldn’t call the police and she was frightened.
I’ve had texts from him saying he wants nothing to do with her and then he demands to see her. He has reported me to ss twice with false allegations called the police in a different county to say I had removed her without his permission. All this failing he has now contacted mediation. He hasn’t seen his child at all for about 6 weeks since threatening to take her and run and I’m waiting to go to court for a residency order.
my mediation is in shuttle over zoom so I’m safe but I have no idea what to ask to make sure DD is protected.
i would really like to have contact centre visits where he is drug tested before a visit and for him to to go on a domestic abuse course/ parenting course but am I being delusional to ask for this. Does anyone else have any idea of what else I could ask for? They also mentioned a parenting app. Does anyone have any info on which one is the best