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OH wants to kick DD out

25 replies

KeenViper · 13/05/2024 14:41

OH keeps saying he’s going to change the locks when DD turns 18. We own the house jointly, what can I do to definitely prevent him doing that?

OP posts:
Deathbyfluffy · 13/05/2024 14:43

Does he have a reason for doing it? If he's just being a dick then no, but if she's selling your stuff for drugs then it's justified (IMO).

More context would be helpful!

Hoppinggreen · 13/05/2024 14:43

Leave him?
Seek legal advice as well/instead

KentishMama · 13/05/2024 14:43

Leave the bastard. This is an extremely clear cut case.

NamingConundrum · 13/05/2024 14:43

Why does he want her out? I assume not her dad?

Simple. You split up. Buy a place with your half.

MILTOBE · 13/05/2024 14:59

I would leave him as soon as I could.

KeenViper · 13/05/2024 15:04

Sorry.
he is her father.
she is well behaved, works hard.
she stands up to him.
i was hoping i could block him from doing anything, get that settled, before any larger change.

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CarryOnCharon · 13/05/2024 15:06

You need to look at him being out of the house. Not her.

NamingConundrum · 13/05/2024 15:06

She 'stands up to him'? Sorry OP, but bluntly she shouldn't have had to stand up to him. You should have protected her by leaving long ago.

Guiltypleasures001 · 13/05/2024 15:07

Leave him sell the house , set up another home for you and DD

longdistanceclaraclara · 13/05/2024 15:07

Kick him out.

What's the backstory?

Ellie1015 · 13/05/2024 15:07

Is he serious? If you think there is a chance he may be genuine he is awful and splitting should be your top priority.

Notreat · 13/05/2024 15:08

Sell the house and take your half. I wouldn't accept anyone l throwing my children out of their home

CarryOnCharon · 13/05/2024 15:10

He can change the locks but you’d have to be able to access the house as joint owner and could give dd a key.

But that’s not the issue here

Aquamarine1029 · 13/05/2024 15:12

You should be asking yourself why you haven't already left him. I'm betting he has form for being an arsehole.

CassandraProphesying · 13/05/2024 15:12

But that’s not the issue here
No, definitely not the issue.
When you say ‘stands up to him’ OP, what do you mean? Is he abusive, bullying?

ineedtostopbeingdramaticfirst · 13/05/2024 15:25

Are you in a abusive relationship? You need to find a way to leave with your dd. Get some legal advice and if money is an issue go to womens aid.

KeenViper · 13/05/2024 15:34

Yes you are all correct. I’ve contacted a solicitor just now. He is awful and getting worse.

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CarryOnCharon · 13/05/2024 15:38

I’m really pleased to hear that @KeenViper

Aquamarine1029 · 13/05/2024 15:40

KeenViper · 13/05/2024 15:34

Yes you are all correct. I’ve contacted a solicitor just now. He is awful and getting worse.

Excellent. Please don't back down and change your mind. Your daughter needs you to have her back and protect her from him.

AdoraBell · 13/05/2024 15:46

Glad you have contacted a solicitor OP stick to your guns and support your DD.

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 13/05/2024 17:50

@KeenViper let him change the locks and give her a key!! you own half the house so you also have a say! If he isnt happy, sell the house and give him half!

zeibesaffron · 13/05/2024 18:04

She should not have to stand up to him and neither should you - get proper advice and leave, nothing about your post is ok! I am almost certain he is a complete twat to you and your DD most of the time, please do something positive and proactive now - you will both feel so much better for getting rid of this idiot! xx

GoodHeavens99 · 13/05/2024 20:53

KeenViper · 13/05/2024 14:41

OH keeps saying he’s going to change the locks when DD turns 18. We own the house jointly, what can I do to definitely prevent him doing that?

I wouldn't call any man my Other Half, especially a man that's been a complete bastard.

Flopsythebunny · 13/05/2024 20:57

My ex husband said the same. We were both out within 3 months followed by the house being sold and getting a divorce. He thought I was bluffing when I said that if she goes, so do I

kittybiscuits · 13/05/2024 21:02

He's abusive to you, OP, isn't he, as well as to your daughter? Please talk to your local Refuge service. If he gives you any reason to call the police, please do do. You need an occupation order. I'm sure what you've said here is just the tip of the iceberg.

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