Repost as misunderstood - would my child get taken off me

[JadeQuail]

Hello,

Am wondering if I could have some advise please on my current situation..

I have a 13 year old boy who currently lives with one of my family members due to him been taken off me when I was 17 due to me been in a domestic violence relationship, I was very young and nieve and I didn’t see at the time that I was putting my child in danger by staying with his dad from countless domestic violence calls. The social services decided to take my child off me and me see my child with supervised contact.. after a while the contact stopped as my family member didn’t won’t to do the contact anymore as I didn’t get on with my dad. The one who was doing the contact. After a while I went through a contact centre but I got into some financial difficulty and couldn’t afford to pay the 100 pound a month I know that sounds awful but I was really struggling at the time..

a couple of years had passed and I see my son at family gatherings and I also speak to him everyday, my son has been through so much I wouldn’t won’t to put him in a position for him to see me in a contact centre, I have tired speaking to my dad to arrange contact out of the centre but he’s having none of it.. I went back to see a solicitor to get my son back in my care however it was going to cost me over 3,000 and I just didn’t have the money at the time and I know my son is happy where he is and settled.

12 years down the line I am now 30 years old I speak to my son daily but do not have contact. I have been split up with his father who the domestic violence was with for over 7 years.. I have now sorted my life out I work in a law firm, go to university, have a lovely home and a loving partner I have been with for over 4 years.. I have fallen pregnant and I am currently 9 weeks I have phoned the doctor to make a midwife appointment but I am really scared on what the outcome will be.. I have never done drugs or been in trouble with the police. My partner had an issue 3 years ago for an assult on a women she also was arrested both was bailed and went to court.. he was found not guilty and she got done for wasting police time. He also had some issues before Christmas where he suffered abit of depression and seeked medical advise they gave him some tablets and they just wasn’t working for him. We moved house and he found another job (the reason he got so down due to him loosing a job he loved) he now has no problems and he is happy with life I have read that I will probably have to do a pre birth assessment but I am really scared if my unborn child will be taken away from me. Am happy to do what ever it takes any assessment for this not to happen I am a completely different person I was to what I am now.

Could anyone please give me some advise on what may happen and if they think I will be able to keep my unborn child. I am so scared at the moment and I constantly worry

You’ve put this on the ‘Preppers’ board, ask to have it moved @JadeQuail

You e posted this in ‘Preppers’, OP. Just ask Mn to change the title of your other post, and remove the mistaken reference to ‘domestic violence’.

I work for Children’s Services. Be honest with the Midwife - they will do a referral under the Unborn Baby Protocol. Engage with the social worker who will probably want you to sign a safety plan and ask you about contact with your ex, as well as monitor the situation for a period of time. Good luck

Would your baby be safe with you?

Do you have contact with anyone who could make your baby unsafe?

What were the reasons your baby was taken from you in that past and have those changed for the better?

(If your baby could not be safe with you-you would want them taken-wouldn't you? Good mothers want the best for their children.)

My partner had an issue 3 years ago for an assult on a women she also was arrested both was bailed and went to court.. he was found not guilty and she got done for wasting police time.

Are you saying that because he was found not guilty, that the woman was then charged for wasting police time?

Yes move to the legal or relationships board.

You will have a pre birth assessment.

The most worrying thing is pick on is your current DPs recent history of violence. Just because a court found him not guilty doesnt mean he's safe it just means they couldn't prove his guilt beyond reasonable doubt. The threshold for child law is on the balance of probability.

He needs to recognise his behaviour and show he's learned from it & changed. I'd worry that you seem to be downplaying his behaviour.

Massive massive red flag tattoo you've found another possibly violent man, sorry.

You’ve found another dodgy bloke, op…
There’s no way this woman “got done” for time wasting just because they couldn’t prove the assault.
You’re not being remotely honest about your life or your circumstances.

The woman didn't "get done" for wasting police time just because he was found not guilty.

Have you had a clares law check done?

It seems like you've got with another dodgy bloke here op.

All you can do is be honest and engage with SS if you're referred.

It may come to choosing between him and your child, are you prepared to leave for your child's welfare?