Thank you so much, my dad was 80yrs old, but a very good 80, he was fully dependant and to look at him you would say he was 65 tops, the stroke came out of the blue he got up, went for a wash after saying good morning to me, then i heard a crash and i knew he had collapsed, the ambulance arrived in 60 seconds they were passing my house, the hospital i can see from my bedroom window so that part was very fast, but the 4hr window had started this was 8am. The plan was to take him from llanelli to the only hospital that could do the procedure to save him in Bristol, 86 miles away either blue lights ambulance or Air ambulance, which ever arrives first.
My dad as trying to help get off the floor his right side was active, paramedics had to tell him they would get him up dont worry, he understood, i was asking him to raise his thumb if he heard me..he raised his thumb, then the breakdown happened, air ambulance arrived, and 5hrs later he still hadn't been taken 1 mile to the ambulance. the ambulance said we were told the trip was 86 mile, not 1 mile so they never sent one. both parties admit the break down in communication and they also changed their procedure for bumping someone actually dying down the priority list in place of someone calling 999 for a heart attack when in reality 9/10 that person is not having a heart attack.
My mum was financially dependant on him as a family we have lost about £2000 p/m income from his passing. My brother is disabled and my dad did everything for him, since he died in 2022 dec 7th, my brother wakes up screaming having nightmares of my dad asking why didnt we do more, my mum is his career both of them are mentally destroyed, the inquest has dragged on since jan 2023 a 2 day date yet to be set, this is why im reluctant ive been holding everything together since 2022, i watch my dad die the most horrible death as he was convulsing for hours before he passed, i don't think mentally they can take a drawn out process if the end result is a bank getting their cash that we don't have to pay, i hate talking about money like this my dad meant the world to all of us but had no insurance policies as most expired upon hitting 80yrs old in the small print.
Thank you again very much for the advice and the kind words.