I apologise for the long post and my English if something is not clear in my post please ask I will try explain better I am not able to think properly when discussing my ex.
Background: Since my marriage to my ex I have been a victim of domestic abuse and violence, I was controlled and coerced and told he'd kill himself if I ever told anyone about the abuse due to ugly face and dumb brain no-one would marry me .
My ex arrived to the UK just before the lockdown residing with me for 10 months. My was ex was allowed outside to socialise was working full time with the exception of a few weeks during lockdown. My ex is a wanted criminal abroad which I was not aware of until after a few weeks he arrived to the UK.
My ex would bring drugs and alcohol home misusing drugs and leaving them lying around within easy reach of my eldest child who was 1 years. I tried to reason with my ex that he has to let me notify the DWP about his employment as it's fraud and he needs to stop misusing drugs as an arrest would impact renewal of his spousal visa.
My ex would abuse me and assault me unfortunately during one assault I suffered a miscarriage. I tried to speak with a sibling of my ex to try talk to him when I return home my ex assaulted me for leaving the family home without his permission whilst he was at work. My eldest child has become distressed on many occasions during the abuse and assault.
My ex followed one of my relatives to her home entering without permission where he made sexualised comments to her luckily my relative was able to escape my ex did try to block her exit. My ex returned to work boasting about what he had done not realising his employers were friends of my relatives siblings who they informed about what my ex had done.
Whilst at work the siblings of my relative confronted and assaulted my ex he suffered from a swollen eye and injuries to his nose. During a family mediation to resolve issues with my ex and my relatives family amicably a meeting was help where the eldest siblings of my ex attended.
My ex admitted to following my relative to her home where he made sexualised comments. The siblings of my ex apologised along with my ex. The siblings wanted to know about any other bad habits my ex had my brother presented drugs which enraged the siblings of my ex who abused him saying he has the same habits here he had there a reference to his arrest for selling high quality class A drugs in Pakistan.
The siblings of my ex demanded to take him for two months they would employ him at their business and keep an eye on his behaviour discipline him where appropriate promising to send him back a changed person. Unfortunately the very next day my ex showed up abusing blaming me for being ugly which is why he made sexualised comments to my relative.
Over the next few weeks the applicant kept showing up unannounced abusing and threatening me and my immediate family in the presence of my child who was distressed and left frightened by the actions of my ex. My eldest son had suffered from accidental burns for which he was treated I did not disclose this information as I was heavily pregnant with my second child I did not want to be abused or risk losing another child due to a miscarriage.
My ex showed up again unannounced my father told him about my eldest child suffering from accidental burns. My ex went into a rage shouting threatening my father asking where is the ugly bitch my father was unable to speak due to tremors my ex walked into my mums room where I was hold my eldest child who was covered in bandages my ex showed no remorse abusing me telling me ugly people like me don't deserve kids I had a dumb brain then told me he's taking my child.
My ex snatched my child which caused him distress whilst covered in bandages my ex attempted to leave luckily my siblings came out of their rooms my ex stopped in his tracks placing my eldest child down. My ex continued his abuse telling me to shut up and not to show him my ugly face my ex then tried to strike me as I moved back to avoid being hit I experienced excruciating pain which was the same as when I suffered a miscarriage I genuinely believed I had suffered a miscarriage.
My ex continued with his verbal abuse and threats when the police were mentioned he fled. I came to the realisation that day that my ex was lying about killing or harming himself if anyone is being hurt it's me and my children I decided to end my marriage after the birth of my second child as I did not wish to add stress. My ex had agreed to supervised family time with my eldest son before he involved the courts at my cousins home but did not honour this instead showing up unannounced abusing me and making threats of violence. when my ex received the divorce papers he did not acknowledge them he started residing in a property where rent was paid cash in hand. my ex through his solicitors asked to spend time with the children as he needed something to renew the spousal visa I did not engage.
I received notification from the court and my ex's first statement which does not contain one word of truth. my ex lied about being kept as a slave, not being allowed to work and accused me and my brother of assaulting him at home saying he has been a victim of domestic abuse and violence. I had solicitors who represented me who told me he would not be able to have contact as the children are too young and my evidence proves he's lied about everything. Unfortunately my solicitor from the firm left my file was not paid attention to none of my evidence was verified with a statement of truth the court did not look at the bundle as documented in the finding of fact order.
I raised my concerns with the firm about making an appeal I was told once findings have been made they can't be challenged. If I wished to appeal I need to instruct new solicitors I was without representation I struggled with appointing a solicitor due to health complications which would require surgery I wrote to the court to explain my situation my letter was delivered a signature was obtained the court misplaced this letter.
The court has believed everything my ex has said without even considering my evidence recent letter from home office requested by the court confirms my ex has no valid leave to remain or be in the country. At the most recent hearing I was told by my barrister if I don't agree to contact the judge will take my children away. There are no welfare concerns in the section 37 report. The court appointed a guardian who was concerned about the risk posed by my ex it's important the court considers this.
A Welsh officer has also suggested the findings are revisited. The chair of the child protection conference has raised concerns the court needs to look at the evidence. Unfortunately during a hearing to decide whether the findings should be revisited the judge refused.
My evidence includes videos, photographs, CCTV footage, call recordings and audio recordings of my ex abusing me. I have police disclosure for my relative which proves my ex was not at home when he alleges he was assaulted a finding which the court has made.
My ex's tiktok profile is public where he can be seen working. I also have a witness statement from my relatives mother that her children assaulted my ex. I have been told I have 14 days to agree to take photographs and send them this is something I am unable to do due to flashbacks of violence.
My ex has been provided accommodation based on the wrong finding made by the court and is in receipt of Universal Credit as mentioned in the sections 37 report my ex has made several applications to the home office to extend his stay which have been refused my ex has claimed his fees back despite working cash in hand.
My ex is receiving legal aid despite having evidence that proves this is not true, he also receiving help from domestic violence social worker and the local authority despite having no right to be in the country.
I am thinking of going to the press with my evidence as every solicitor I've instructed had failed to raise my concerns which is not my fault.
I am feeling very depressed I am emotionally wrecked I don't know what to do I would really appreciate if someone with knowledge could advise me my current solicitors have failed to raise my concerns at the most recent hearing I've been told I can't appeal I'll end up in court i do not agree to the court order. Is there anything the police can do to help or any other organisation I am very concerned I am having trouble sleeping and eating.