My partners ex is a habitual cannabis user smoking 3/4 times a week throughout the whole length of their relationship. Totally denies having ever smoked, nearest thing to an admission was wouldn’t smoke around child. Never really had much cause for worry really but recently there have been a few incidents which have caused concern relating to neglect(not going to go into the specifics here) CAFCAS officer talked about drug testing and asked if my partner was willing to pay for this testing. Also said courts tend not to be bothered at all about drug use unless really severe issues or abuse. Concerns shared around impact that use is potentially having on child. Just wondered really if anyone has been through the process of custody arrangements with an ex who uses cannabis and/or experience of drug testing, how does it work? What happens if they refuse testing?
To provide a little context other parent doesn’t work, ours is working household where we don’t smoke either cigarettes or drugs.