I feel like I’m not being heard and it is effecting my daughter! Sorry for the long post
I left a DV relationship just as covid hit, and my ex kept our daughter from me. He took her from her child minders and moved house, blocked me on everything and I had no idea where they were. I had to apply to court to get a child arrangements lives with order which took 2 and a half years because of covid and delays. As he was a resident parent for those 2 years, I was only given after school friday-sunday contact.
The whole time I have been telling social services, cafcass and the courts about my safeguarding concerns and I feel like no one is listening!! Social services open a case, don’t do any proper checks and close the case quickly again it seems.
I have applied to court again for a variation of the order and for full custody. Cafcass did safeguarding police checks and I got the report today.
Since I left my ex, he has had 7 other police records on his file, for assualt, battery and criminal damage. This is against two of his ex partners and also his mum who is living with him and our daughter. Daughter has witnessed this as she was in the house at the time and that was noted in the police report.
They did social services checks too and there has been referrals from his mum, 111 (his mum called them after she was assaulted by him), his nan, our daughters nursery and school and her G.P. I also called them twice.
All the referrals are raising concerns of domestic abuse, violence around the children and also him not being able to meet her basic needs (clothes too small, missed hospital appointments).
I was worried and had concerns anyway, thats why I have applied to court and called social services but now I am even more worried seeing all the police and social services reports from other people.
I don’t understand how there can be so many different referrals to SS, all from different people but saying the exact same thing, because it is the truth, and nothing happens.
He has told social services we are all working together to ‘bring him down’, which isnt true, we are just worried for our daughter. I had no idea about any of the other calls to them until recently.
I’m so angry reading it all knowing nothing is happening. Does anyone know of anything else I can do.
Thank you so much