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Sharing of school holidays

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Lonelydadof2 · 14/03/2024 15:32

looking for some advice….

I have 2 boys with 2 Mums, my eldest son is now a grown-up, but when he was younger his mum and I managed to sort things out between us - finances, time with me, collections and drop offs, and when I wanted to take my son away during school holidays, it was never a problem.

My youngest son’s mum isn’t quite as easy to sort things out with…. She can be very selfish and I struggle to get any extra time with him (other than my normal alternate weekends) during the school holidays.
For example, I’ve asked to have him from Thursday to Monday, during the Easter holidays, and over my weekend, so we can go away for a few days. It’s 4 nights when I’d normally have him for 2…. his mum has come back with the generous offer of 1 extra night… so we either leave a day late or come back a day early 🤷🏻‍♂️

I intend to start mediation proceedings in the hope of getting a Child Agreement Order sorted, as it’s the same arguments every Christmas, and whenever I want to have any more than 2 nights every 2 weeks.

So my query is, how much of the school holidays would I be entitled to?
I have struggled to find a definitive answer online… so any insight would be gratefully received.
I just want to spend as much time with him as I can, but whenever I ask for any extra it’s like I’ve asked for her spleen!!

Many thanks in advance 😊

OP posts:
Karensalright · 14/03/2024 15:42

A lot hangs on the age of the child.

Nonewclothes2024 · 14/03/2024 15:48

Have you asked for 50 / 50 of the holidays ?

BoohooWoohoo · 14/03/2024 15:49

You’d be seen as reasonable to ask for up to 50% of school holidays.

Chocolateorange11 · 16/03/2024 19:05

Agree reasonable to ask for 50:50. Or think about what you can reasonably manage. Be aware that if you ask for four weeks mum may be awarded the rest of the holidays and then your usual time won’t be available

if formalising worth considering what a schedule would look like, eg half term holidays split in half or alternated…

id also look at specific requests to cover Xmas, bank holidays

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