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DC Dad awaiting sentencing

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ChangedforObviousReasons2024 · 17/02/2024 17:24

Hoping somebody can help...
Ex is awaiting sentencing this month for violent & sexual offences.
In England.
Is there anywhere I can find out exactly what he has been found guilty of?
I want specifics to support decision making around future access to DC & likely legal position on this.

OP posts:
StealthMama · 17/02/2024 20:10

What do you plan on telling the kids? Given they haven't seen in much, a visit now to say 'bye' would be quite strange and I think SS might support you in not allowing that visit.

RawBloomers · 18/02/2024 03:02

You could just say “No”, OP. I don’t mean to try to put you off finding out - it might make a difference in the future. But you have enough information to say no now if you want to. He’s hardly saw his kids when he could. He’s been convicted of a serious, violent crime. This is for his benefit, not theirs, and he’s asking without being forthright about what’s going on. That’s good enough to refuse regardless of the exact crimes.

ChangedforObviousReasons2024 · 09/04/2024 19:28

I wanted to come back & update after all your advice.
I requested a Claire's Law disclosure & received a visit from the police that week. Their statement told me everything I needed to know, I refused the visit & stuck to it despite delays in the sentencing. Last week he was sentenced to the maximum possible, 10 years. I had to contact the court directly on the day of sentencing, unless you are the victim you have to find out for yourself. DC are currently none the wiser.
All the advice was valuable & I really appreciate it.

OP posts:
seasaltwater · 09/04/2024 19:41

❤️ well done. You have been really brave and the best thing for your child. Must be very unsettling and horrid. Do take care - there is support out there (eg Women's Aid, and other orgs If talking it through would help)

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