Hi everyone
My ex and i split up nearly a year ago due to the reason that he treated and spoke to me like dirt for years, was emotionally and verbally abusive - had to endure living together for months until he found his own place. Things seemed to settle down slightly until around October 23 when he found out i was speaking to someone else. This sent him spiralling and since then he has made my life hell. Rings and messages me constantly, checks if im at work. had someone watch me when i was in the pub with friends, has threatened to take our son away from me as 'punishment', has threatened suicide multiple times if i don't get back with him and I had to call the police last week as he came to the house (joint owned so can't stop him) and asked me to get back with him, when i said no he started taking tablets and completeley lost it. Police didn't really do anything tbh as he hadn't been physical.
I have spoken to womens aid who suggested a non-molestation order. My only worry is that it wont be granted and this will spur him on. Most of his threats are done verbally so I have limited proof.. i have a few messages and a witness statement and gp records.
The whole relationship was quite emotionally abusive and I am ashamed to say I kept going back over and over again - even recently he's managed to talk me into trying again for the sake of our son and that i'd be wrecking his life if i dont and he would grow to hate me etc. Im afraid that me going back (even though its because i felt guilted into it) will look bad on me? We are not together but he will not let me go. He said this morning that if i refuse to get back with him im signing myself up for 15 years of hell until our son turns 18.