Well done for filing a report.
I can’t tell you what the police or a court might do. He might plead guilty or might deny it and therefore it will rely on multiple factors such as medical records, statements and both the likelihood of a conviction and the potential of what that might mean.
You say you have a sister. Is she also willing to make a statement? Any witnesses?
I’m 50 and despite experiencing violence from my parents and so on as a child. I never have made a police report - he’s now 85 and in poor health. Money wise he will be far more able to defend himself - he is a millionaire.
Years of counselling and boundaries have meant he hasn’t spoken to me in 3 years. I will never get an acknowledgment or an apology - apologies when they do come are said in a way such as ‘right ok you’ve upset your mother so I’m sorry ok I’m sorry you’re so sensitive and emotional. There you go just leave it now I’ve apologised and that’s the end of it’ and then a refusal to let me speak - that was 5 years ago. Hardly an apology is it?
I longed for loving parents, still do - that’s natural and like you have had years of therapy.
I long for him to be ‘taken down’ or develop a nasty illness or even just die at times. He is and was my abuser and destroyed my life.
But he has no power over me or my children now. I saw him a year ago and he had no power over me, a pathetic 85 year old man with no friends and no life. He has no contact through their choice with my children who loathe him and have told him why they do - he lost his power over the next generation. One day he will be dust, no one will come to his funeral or remember him. This time in 20 year he will be dust. He lives sad and alone with his millions and my mother.
I wish you every success with your journey and I totally get why you want it - want someone to say ‘listen mate you are a totally nasty bastard and it wasn’t her - it was you’ -for me even if a top judge told my father this - he would blame anyone -,the system, me whatever rather than believe that.
For me my father is a tiny man and for years used his fists to control me and his words. I have wished at times I could cause him pain, hit him for all those times he hit me etc and sometimes I wish I could just tell him for closure ‘you are fucking bastard and the world is better off with you dead’. But for him he would not accept it from me or anyone.
I wish you every success and support with your journey.