Tricky one, so keen to hear thoughts before I inevitably drain more of my savings for legal advice…
Ex is a high earner. We were a well-off family. When we divorced it was 70-30 childcare split with me not working. Court ordered he pays me £2k a month ‘global’ maintenance for five years, variable on circumstances.
I went back to work a year ago and earn 2k a month after tax. No mortgage. Informally agreed ex could have kids 50-50. He got a nanny. Kids well supported by both of us now with nice lives. Close to what they would’ve had if we’d stayed together really. Skiing and horseriding and private tutors. If we’d stayed together I’d have not needed to work but I’m pleased I’ve been able to provide the children with the lives we expected for them when we got married.
Spanner in the works:
Now with 3 years of maintenance order left ex says he is quitting his job for 2 years to do his MBA. He said he will live off savings to fund his life with the kids while he studies but plans to stop paying me maintenance once he stops earning. The MBA means he’ll be an even higher earner at the point the 5 year order runs out. But everybody suffers a drop in lifestyle now and apparently only he gets to decide this.
Can he do this or would a court likely tell him he has to wait to quit work until his 5 year order is up? (I realise my change of circumstances in going back to work complicates things.)
Or should I ask perhaps in mediation for the order to be varied so that he gets two years ‘holiday’ while studying but it resumes when he starts earning again?
I will go down the mediation route first so would be great to get some opinions here about what is sensible to ask for.
thanks so much in advance