Child Arrangement and self harm

[bombastix]

This is difficult for me to write. I have a limited order with my ex for contact for one child who is 12.

This child has disclosed to the school that they would self harm if made to have contact with ex. Also mentioned what sounds like abuse of his girlfriend at home.

Obviously no contact is happening. Making a reference to counsellor, seeing GP and keeping an eye on at home is all I can do.

Ex I think has a personality disorder.

My brain is scrambled. I do not know whether to apply to court or wait to see what he will do.

I had a very bad time of it last time and there we're safeguarding concerns about him then, but of course he did his six months supervised and then I had to allow contact. And I had a lot of criticism from the court about my objections.

Can anyone help? I feel so powerless.

This guy will not quit. He is now bothering child's school. Want's information as to her well-being

He is entitled to that if he's on the birth certificate. He has parental responsibility.

Yes but complicated given situation; literally a phone call would be better rather than shouting at the staff which is what he appears to be doing.

@bombastix Apologies for resurrecting your thread. I hope you had a positive outcome for your child, and wonder if you would be able to update?

Sadly having a similar experience and seeking advice or stories of a positive outcome...

Matters moved on a lot! Orders are now in place to prevent contact at all on the basis of serious harm being likely to result.

Very stressful time all round; you will need a lot of support from the authorities. I spent my time pushing the police, social services and NHS to help. Unfortunately there was an incident that proved the concern was right. After that it was easier to go to court and get a non mol.