The father of my LO is not on the BC. I refused because when I told him he was verbally abusive and tried to isolate me from friends and family. I was lucky a family member came to stay with me pre birth and that kept him away.
Once LO arrived we had an arrangement he would see her three times a week but he stopped when he found out he was on the BC. Since my LO was born that was his focus not being on BC wouldn’t ask how she is doing, calls my LO, “The Child”.
he asked for a DNA test which didn’t happen despite turning up because he thought I wouldn’t do it. He wanted a test because I refused to allow him in my home as I didn’t feel safe so he took that as me cheating.
He left it for a few months and came back. He said unless he is on the BC he will take me to court.
I have never stopped him seeing LO and he accepts it was his choice but it’s my fault I didn’t put on the BC.
i proposed:
see a family mediator
be consistent in LO’s life for 6 months. I will pay for the BC and sign a contract to that effect.
He said no because I am trying to control him and that unless he is on the BC he won’t see LO because I’m trying to control him.
he then told me he wanted LO to meet his other child who he didn’t know existed till they were 6 months old. I agreed. First thing he says he wants to be on the BC didn’t acknowledge LO until I pointed it.
Social services and the police are aware of what he has done to me as he used to stand outside my own that wouldn’t leave the house. However, nothing has been tamed further at me request.
am I being unreasonable?