House sale divorce

[Fclondon]

Hello all,

a bit of background. Unfortunately DW and myself decided to get a divorce. No other person involved, drifted apart and can’t agree on anything anymore.

short marriage 4 years no kids

I am trying to amicably end our marriage but DW turned nasty and spent all savings 2 weeks before we separate (approximately £15-17k tht we were saving for a baby). Bought luxury items clothing etc just for herself without my permission

we own a flat together that we just bought together 2 years ago. Joint owners and she doesn’t want to consider that I will buy her out
she wants to put the house on the market

also I contributed significantly more on the deposit by about £60k (savings plus contributions from my parents) and the past year I was paying all the bills plus mortage myself and we were heavily saving in her account for the future and for a DC (money that she spent in 2 weeks buying designers clothing )

I was never expecting this behaviour from wife and I am utterly gutted by her behaviour

I am left with no money at all whilst she moved out of the family home

I can borrow money and buy her out but she doesn’t agree…. She wants the house on the market and a 50/50 split. I can afford to get a mortage on my own

1)can she force me out of our house and can she actually force a sale whilst I can go to the court and say that I have offered to buy her half?
2)Do I have any standing in requesting payback for the deposit I put in when we bought the flat?
3) Can DW claim that I need to pay the court fees if she decided to go for a forced sale ?

You need to go and see a good divorce solicitor they will be able to tell you the best way to proceed. Don't accept online advice for something this important.

Agreed it's a short marriage, no DC, well worth finding a solicitor that gets good results for people in your situation.

Agree with others that you need to see a solicitor. Given that this is a short marriage, you paid more of the deposit and she has chosen to spend your joint savings on herself, you may be entitled to more than 50% of the equity in the property.

thank you all for your response
I am trying to avoid the legal route and was trying to come to an amicable solution but she is not really engaging
i will have maybe a couple of free consultations that I saw online and take it from there

If they are free, I’d question their value. See a solicitor who specialises on divorce as you need a financial settlement that takes into account all you have said. Free advice is not doing the work for this!

Sorry Op, this one is already not amicable. Definitely get legal advice asap. One appointment might set you clear on your best approach. One appointment would certainly advise you regarding your rights. It’s money well spent, honestly. £200-300 is a tiny fraction of what you’ve already lost, don’t lose any more being ‘amicable’. No need to be nasty either, just know your rights.