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Solicitors letter from ex

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Microwaveexpert · 04/11/2023 16:30

Hi just looking for some advice. Please be aware I'm in Scotland.
What do I need to do about responding to a solicitors letter? It's basically about times for my ex to see my son which have been stated on the letter as what we've already arranged so seems pointless. And requesting my cooperation with applying for a blue badge for my ex (son has autism).
Thank you

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prh47bridge · 04/11/2023 18:25

A letter from a solicitor may seem scary but it has no more weight than a letter from anyone else. It is entirely up to you what you do about it. If you are happy with the times arranged and are happy to help your ex get a blue badge for your son, write back to say so.

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Microwaveexpert · 04/11/2023 20:46

Thanks so much for your reply. Do I need to get myself a solicitor to do this though?

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prh47bridge · 04/11/2023 21:17

No.

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Microwaveexpert · 04/11/2023 21:26

Great thank you very much

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NigelHarmansNewWife · 04/11/2023 21:28

Sounds as though your ex is just getting what you have agreed in writing.

DarkDarkNight · 04/11/2023 21:32

When I was in this situation I just ignored it. My ex was already having contact with our child at the dates and times he’d requested. I was really insulted about it to be honest and just ignored both letters as I didn’t have anything to say. As it turned out he broke the arrangement before I did anyway, so the ‘formal’ arrangement he was seeking didn’t mean much.

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Microwaveexpert · 05/11/2023 04:19

DarkDarkNight · 04/11/2023 21:32

When I was in this situation I just ignored it. My ex was already having contact with our child at the dates and times he’d requested. I was really insulted about it to be honest and just ignored both letters as I didn’t have anything to say. As it turned out he broke the arrangement before I did anyway, so the ‘formal’ arrangement he was seeking didn’t mean much.

Yes that's exactly how I feel about it, insulted. And I know he will definitely break the agreement first too so just all seems so pointless

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Collaborate · 05/11/2023 06:13

It’s not helpful at all to ignore it. If you’re worried he’ll not stick to it then you have the opportunity to emphasise in your response that whilst you’ve agreed to what is set out in the letter you have done so on the understanding that he’ll be consistent in complying with it. Get on record your position.

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Microwaveexpert · 05/11/2023 08:24

The other issue I have is that the letter states he's taken a part time job now to be more available for our son. Sounds great. But it regularly isn't him that has our son but his 70 yo parents who I feel are getting too old to cope with an autistic child. Not sure if I can do anything about that.
And this is a guy who's had 13 different jobs in the 12 years I've known him so not exactly reliable.

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