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Boyfriend ripped up my certificates!

14 replies

nursei · 17/09/2023 14:54

I have recently finished with my boyfriend due to his jealousy. He would start arguments out of trivial things but the last straw came a few days ago. He has always been jealous of my success and last night he got my folder with all my certificates in and ripped them all up. Is this a crime? I'm meant to be going for a job interview next week and taking my folder to show the interviewer. I will have to contact the organisations to get copies of the certificates (presume I can do that at considerable cost) but can I do anything legally about it?

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bigknickersbigknockers · 17/09/2023 14:56

Im sorry you are going through this, I would go to the police. I dont know if its a crime but no harm in finding out. Then make sure you do not reunite with this bell end.

VanillaFlotilla · 17/09/2023 15:02

Yes intentionally damaging someone else's property is a crime so you could report him to the police I suppose. And in theory you could sue him for damages in connection with the cost of replacing the paperwork (and perhaps the loss of the job opportunity?).

caringcarer · 17/09/2023 15:02

I lost my degree certificate and in order to get a new phone one I had to write to uni who made me go to the solicitor and swear on oath I'd return it if I found it. Then once I had signed form from the solicitor I had to send it off to Uni to get a replacement issued. It took 3 weeks in total.

sleepD3pr1ived · 17/09/2023 15:15

I can't imagine the police would take this seriously. It might be illegal but is it really a police matter?

nursei · 17/09/2023 15:16

sleepD3pr1ived · 17/09/2023 15:15

I can't imagine the police would take this seriously. It might be illegal but is it really a police matter?

As someone else said, its damage to personal property and has to be replaced at considerable cost to me.

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LimeCheesecake · 17/09/2023 15:22

Which certificates are they and do you have the bits? exam boards have systems for replacing but if you have the ripped up bits, they might be able to do this quicker. I’d contact them and explain you have left an abusive relationship and your ex partner destroyed your certificates to try to stop you getting a job.

there will be a charge.

sadaboutmycat · 17/09/2023 15:26

What a pathetic and nasty thing to do. I'm so sorry you have been through this.
Do you happen to have any scanned copies that you have emailed to another employer at all? Even if you haven't got the scans they may be in your Sent Items? That could help with the Interview whilst you get replacements.

Mariposista · 17/09/2023 15:40

This is an absolutely vile thing to do. I hope you get copies of the certificates in time for your interview.
I had a friend who has a calendar with King Charles spaniels on, from her late grandmother's house. Was a calendar from a previous year (I guess the one she died in), but who cares, it was hers and she liked it. Her bf destroyed it in a temper, and she was more upset about that than anything else. Disgusting.

AnotherDelphinium · 17/09/2023 15:40

This is both criminal damage and domestic violence, please report it to the police they will should take it seriously.

tara66 · 17/09/2023 15:40

Take him to small claims court. Why should he get away with this behaviour? Get copies ASAP as some of the issuing bodies may change or close - making getting copies more difficult.

Dillydollydingdong · 17/09/2023 15:42

At least you've dumped him before it's too late. He's done you a favour, and shown his true character.

gamerchick · 17/09/2023 15:42

Do you still have them? Could they be repaired and photo copied. If photocopies are allowed

dimsumfatsum · 17/09/2023 15:48

I'm pretty sure this is classed as coercive control which is part of DV. He knew how much getting that job meant to you but damaged your certificates to jeopardise you getting said job. Report the bastard.

DrFoxtrot · 17/09/2023 15:50

Totally agree with PP that this is a form of domestic violence. Report to the police.

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