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Divorce after long seperation

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milafawny · 12/09/2023 12:24

Hi all, wondering if anyone can advise.

I left my husband in 2015. In 2016 i applied for a divorce to the address of the home we owned. He received the petition before the house was sold (i had left the home he stayed) but he refused to sign. After the house was sold, he vanished, literally, no contact with myself or our children, no financial support either. I was struggling financially so i didnt act further.

In 2021 i found out an address for him, as i was on universal credit (due to being a student) i reapplied for the divorce using the help to pay service. Again, he ignored it and didnt sign. I had no money to continue the application

The 2021 petition is still active when i log into the .gov portal.

I can see that i can pay £53 to search him. If i pay this, does this include serving him again? What happens if he refuses to sign again after i pay this £53?

I can see that i can pay £53 for the i have tried every possible way to contact him. I have no information for his family, no addresses as i have not had contact with them for 8 years. He is unemployed now as i went through the CMS in 2016, but at the end of 2021 when i received the address for him i started receiving money through the CMS from a deduction in his benefits. I dont have an email or phone etc for him. I have nothing.

My issue now is i have completed my degree and im due to start working very soon. I need to be divorced from him due to my NHS pensions etc. We have been separated and i have been living alone with my children since 2016. Surely there must be an easy cheap way to continue this process?

Im a single parent with 3 expensive teens, who he has contributed £690 to over the 8 years. I worked every hour i could until they were all in high school when i went to uni myself. I cant afford £53 to research him, then £53 to reserve him for him to ignore it again, and then £53 for the possibility of being allowed to proceed based on exhausting every other option.

I just want to be free of this man now. But i need to do it in the cheapest way i can as i just dont have the spare money.

Thank you in advance for any advice you can offer

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milafawny · 14/09/2023 15:33

shameless bump sorry

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milafawny · 14/09/2023 18:10

Thank you i have reposted on that board

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OVienna · 16/09/2023 20:19

Have you also tried Citizens Advice?

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