Clean break with children

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Hi, I’m finally divorcing after a 12 year separation. I have 3 children, youngest 12 and there is no contact with dad due to domestic abuse, we left to go in a refuge when I was pregnant and have since rebuilt life slowly. I have received nothing from dad over the years and I want a clean break; he still lives in the marital home but I want nothing. Reading this morning, I’ve seen that a clean break isn’t likely with children. Does anyone have experience of this at all as I’m feeling quite stressed about even starting this process now

I got a clean break and my dc were younger than yours. At thr time I was told courts prefer clean breaks.

The court will prefer a clean break but you really should be taking your share of marital assets. Think of it as your children's right if not your own.

The courts prefer a clean break if possible. As you have been living apart for 12 years, you may not be entitled to much. However, I would agree with the previous poster that you should take your share of the marital assets for your children's benefit.