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Ex, court and making me feel used.

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Babygirlmum · 21/07/2023 18:16

My ex boyfriend is taking me to court to get regular contact with DD, cut a very long story short he left when I was pregnant but I won't get into that to much, he has been seeing her on and off for the past 10 months, as of recently I have been allowing her to stay over which is what he wanted and I wouldn't allow at first, the court has been applied for but I have been giving him what he wants, we started speaking again and seeing how things went between us although things ended really badly the first time, we was getting along we went in a family day out just like week, and then he asked could he take me on a date for a chat and things so that he what we done everything seemed perfect we was getting along and it was like old times, it was a long distance relationship so he has gone home we continued to speak and then it came crashing down again, one small hurdle and he called everything off and after telling me how much he wanted me he no longer wanted it, I felt used soo much, i have just a few weeks ago lost my dad so I am very vulnerable I feel like he's taken advantage of my vulnerability, he has become nasty and I told his mother who also likes to get involved on stuff and he has told her it was a mistake, how can it be a mistake when he has told me how special it was and mistakes don't happen multiple times, this made me feel like crap, I feel like he has used me for some reason and now he has blocked me, however he has applied for the court but obviously contact has stopped again, he is the one who has blocked me, I found out his family was slagging me off as a mother in which I don't want contact with his mother, I don't know what to do in this situation I have enough going on, and then to top it I have court to think about

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TizerorFizz · 22/07/2023 16:18

The court will seek to regularise contact. So you cannot use DD to keep him away or use her because of your feelings towards ex. Just agree contact on a business like footing. And forget anything else!

noglow · 22/07/2023 16:20

Why is it obvious that contact has stopped? Is he stopping picking her up? Ignore all the drama. Be business like "these are "your" days"

Mindymomo · 22/07/2023 16:27

I am very sorry for you, he sounds very cruel making you believe you have a future with him. I’m sorry but he cannot think much of his child if he’s blocked you, therefore not being able to make arrangements for contact. Keep a record of any messages he has sent in the past and also those of his family. Make contact only by text or email, unfortunately you may need this evidence if he goes for custody of the child. Be kind to yourself and your child.

IceCreamQueen86 · 22/07/2023 17:14

then it came crashing down again, one small hurdle and he called everything off

What was the small hurdle?

Babygirlmum · 22/07/2023 22:00

Firstly he has blocked me and expects me to go through his mother who I also can not get along with due to finding out she was slagging me off, I'm a girl on my own trying the best I can to look after my babies while grieving! my mental health is really low and some of it is because of them, he is still taking me to court.

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RedHelenB · 23/07/2023 09:02

So agree contact between the two of you if you want to avoid court. If that means going through his mother, then maybe it's worth it.

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