How can Dad get access to his son?

[Onethingiwantfor23]

Hey. My nephew has been stopped from seeing his 1 year old for 2 months now.
He can't afford a solicitor and isn't entitled to Legal Aid.
He has asked the Mum through the right channels to go to mediation but she has refused.
He is a good Dad and was having him 2/3 times a week since they separated when child was 6 months old.
Would anyone have any ideas about what he can do?
Such a sad situation in that the child is being used as a weapon in all of this.
Thanks.

He can apply for a court order for access I think. Hopefully someone will be along who knows more than I do. He doesn’t necessarily need a solicitor.

Families Need Fathers may be able to help - I believe they are the sensible charity and not the superhero stunt mob.

@Lovemusic33 I think he'd have to represent himself then? Unfortunately he suffers with severe anxiety due to having autism and adhd so I'm not sure how well he'd cope in that situation. Thank you though.

@tribpot Thank you - I've given him the link to check out and he'll call them tomorrow.

If he is in England, he may be able to access 'support through court'. I don't know if its available in the other home nations.

@ImperfectAlf we are in England 😊
Thank you - do you know how he'd access it?

@Onethingiwantfor23

Try this link

www.supportthroughcourt.org/
I hope it works for you

Our D will mot us see GD 8 who has hf asd & adhd. We have looked after her regularly since birth. when younger looked after her for 2-4 days,/nights at a time, did school runs there & back 5 days a week for a year, because D felt unwell. D has MH issues & some mobility issues ( walks with stick) - is divorced single SAHM - hasn't worked at all for 10yrs - divorced for 9 years . We took her to apts, days out, took them on holidays, gave her money so she only had a v small mortgage which was paid off in 6 years & she's only had FT job for 2 years since uni. Looked after GD most days & 5m at night when a toddler as mother struggling - v close to GD.Decorated, fitted new kitchens etc for D.She became increasingly hostile to us once GD started school & she didn't need us as much. Over last 4 years our health has deteriorated ( we are in our 70s ( 71 & 76)& we are finding looking GD overnight very hard as she is unsettled at home & can't get off to sleep until 1.30 & wakes v early. She is great but hyperactive not on meds and needs constant 1/1 - expects us to run & hide in small places etc - we are worn out after a few hrs. want to take her out but for 3/4 hrs & this suits her too but D says no as if we have her it's to give her a break not for GD or our benefit. D hot council provided help 6 days a week 4 hrs per day from June & stopped communicating with us. Brief period Sept/oct when she needed us but then cut off contact with us & GDs dad. We were told to post GD birthday present & given 5m to give her present at Xmas. Communication has now stopped altogether. We still text, send Gd messages & gifts etc but no word back. Father wants contact but she won't speak to him - he'd had eow since child born & is a good dad. He remarried 3 years ago & has small daughter who our Gd hasn"t met because our D doesn't want her to. We feel we have put a lot of support in to GDs life for 8 years & don't want to lose contact but feel that now D sees us & her ex as surplus to requirements. We think GD will miss us & other relatives - all of us have been cast aside ( both sides). She's threatened to harm herself if ex takes her to court for access so he is frightened to. What can we do? We are worried about our GD but neither we or her dad can see a way forward - our D portrays herself as the vulnerable victim but she is v manipulative & uses people - she needs help but will not get mh help on nhs only private so she has some control. Children's services just say case closed & school believe everything she says - ie that we've never given her any help & ex is the problem she us the victim - not true. Any advice v welcome. Thanks

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Sorry about that - thought I had . Thanks for the link